Project Evolove's Instincts Theory

Summary

 

 

Everyone has 3 Instincts – Secure, Sexual, and Social. Their order of priority determines our needs, wants, fears, and joys. The Primary Instinct dominates our motivations. The Secondary Instinct is used to fulfill the needs of the Primary. The least dominant Instinct is only tended to out of necessity.

 

We're attracted to those with similar Instincts. For instance, Eva, who has a Social Primary Instinct and a Sexual Secondary Instinct, is compatible with the following people:

 

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Having similar Instincts means a potential, natural attraction exists. Of course, it does not imply automatic attraction, although that sometimes does happen. Understanding our Instincts helps us cast a more targeted net, so our efforts can be spent on building successful, long-term relationships.


To fully appreciate this simple, yet immensely useful psychological framework, we encourage you to think of your past relationships and consider what worked and what did not. Then, figure out your partners' Instincts and read about them in the "In Relationships" section. You'll be amazed at how well the Instincts predict your interaction!


Below is a quick summary of each Primary Instinct. There are 6 combinations of Primary and Secondary Instincts.

 


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Those with the Secure Primary Instinct are concerned with "nesting and nurturing." They are focused on protecting the self, ensuring that its physical needs, comfort, health, and self-sufficiency are met. They are keenly aware of their environment, such as its temperature, safety, and cleanliness. They are inclined to make their surroundings healthy and comfortable. They need personal space and privacy, even with their loved ones.

 

Someone with a Secure Primary Instinct can be either dating psychology or dating psychology.

 

 

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Those with the Sexual Primary Instinct are devoted to transmitting something meaningful to future generations, whether it is their genes or their ideas. It also means they wish to become "one" with another entity, which they achieve by seeking intense, original experiences that fully engage them. This tendency manifests as their intense desire to form intimate, one-on-one connections with people and as their passionate pursuit of hobbies and interests. Without satisfying these desires, they feel incomplete.

 

Someone with a Sexual Primary Instinct can be either dating psychology or dating psychology.

 

 

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Those with the Social Primary Instinct seek to adapt themselves to meet the needs of their groups or communities. They are very generous with their time and often sacrifice their own needs to advance the group’s priorities. They wish to increase their inclusion and status within a group, for they see their social status as a marker of their level of contribution. They enjoy being involved in other people's lives. Quick to see people's positions and relationships, they can navigate the social circle to obtain protection and influence.

 

Someone with a Social Primary Instinct can be either matchmaking psychology or matchmaking psychology.

 

 

Instincts and Myers Briggs (MBTI)

 

Instincts determine two people's compatibility while Myers Briggs determines how we interact with that person day-to-day. Although Myers Briggs dating is a popular concept, it does not accurately predict compatibility when used alone.

 

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Project Evolove's psychology has its basis in Myers Briggs compatibility, Socionics, Enneagrams, and the works of Carl Jung. Notable influences include Personality Page, Type Logic, Enneagrams Institute, Ocean Moonshine, and the works of David Keirsey. The MBTI assessment tool and MBTI compatibility is separate and unrelated.

 Project Evolove's Instincts

Advanced Topics

 

 

The 3 Instincts are the force behind life and existence. It is a part of Nature itself. Each Instinct carries both a “good” and a “sinister” facet. In other words, there is a moral duality behind the motives and outcomes of the behaviors caused by each Instinct.

 

 

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The Instinct of preservation. The self seeks to maintain its separation from the outside world while furthering its unification within. The result is a continuous enhancement of the boundary between self and non-self. Maintaining its existence is symbolic of life, and losing the self to the non-self is symbolic of death.

 

The physical resources the self accumulates and the relationships that it builds all serve to further facilitate its preservation, self-sufficiency, and personal space. The good motivations associated with this Instinct are personal integrity, freedom, and security. The sinister motivations associated with this Instinct are greed, selfishness, and gluttony.

 

For instance, a real estate investor with a Secure Instinct may scrupulously search an area for new investments, despite being already wealthy. Whether he is motivated by his desire to increase his sense of self-sufficiency or by greed is relative to the perceiver, as both motivations exist simultaneously. Likewise, when a person spends a large sum of money on a new item of clothing, it is unclear whether the primary motivation was a demonstration of self-respect and respect for permanent goods or a demonstration of gluttony, as the two are intertwined.

 

Someone with a Secure Primary Instinct can be either matchmaking dating or psychology dating.

 

 

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The Instinct of creation. The self seeks to expand the self by merging another entity in the outside world. The result is a perpetual disintegration of the boundaries between self and non-self, as the self seeks to become one with the outside entity. Creating a new self is symbolic of life, and stagnancy is symbolic of death.

 

The intimacy that this type develops with other individuals or pursuits is an expression of its desire to merge itself with another entity, thereby, allowing its own rebirth. The good motivations associated with this Instinct are creativity, passion, and progress. The sinister motivations associated with this Instinct are conquest, destruction of others, and lust.

For instance, a scientist with a Sexual Instinct may spend all of her time learning about genetic engineering. Whether she is motivated by her desire to achieve progress for mankind or by her thirst for sense of power over nature is relative to the perceiver, as both motivations exist simultaneously. Likewise, when someone boldly flirts with another, it is unclear whether it is out of romantic passion or the desire to conquer, as the two are intertwined.

 

Someone with a Sexual Primary Instinct can be either dating psychology or dating psychology

 

 

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The Instinct of compassion. This type seeks to become a part of a greater entity. It integrates with the larger whole and becomes one with the outside. It does not break down its boundaries; rather, it reconfigures its insides so that it is relevant to the group. Belonging is symbolic of life, and isolation is symbolic of death.

 

The social bonds that this type develops with others are an expression of its desire to have a role in the larger whole. To have a role is to be a part of life. The good motivations associated with this Instinct are compassion, harmony, and altruism. The sinister motivations associated with this Instinct are vanity, self-destruction, and shame.

 

For instance, a charity spokesperson with a Social Instinct may lead a campaign to raise money for needy children. Whether she is motivated by her altruism or by her desire to be socially praised is relative to the perceiver, as both motivations simultaneously exist. Likewise, when a group leader establishes group social norms, it is unclear whether the primary outcome was the promotion of group harmony or the suppression of individualism, as both occur.

 

Someone with a Social Primary Instinct can be either matchmaking dating or matchmaking dating

 

 

Instincts and Myers-Briggs (MBTI)

 

Instincts determine who we're compatible with while Myers Briggs Personality determines how we interact with that person day-to-day. Although Myers-Briggs dating is a popular concept, it does not accurately predict compatibility when used alone.

 

SIGN UP - Find your Instincts and meet compatible members! We are non-profit and free. Members can chat with each other or discuss topics on our forum.

 

 

 

 

 

Project Evolove's psychology has its basis in Myers Briggs compatibility, Socionics, Enneagrams, and the works of Carl Jung. Notable influences include Personality Page, Type Logic, Enneagrams Institute, Ocean Moonshine, and the works of David Keirsey. The MBTI assessment tool and MBTI compatibility is separate and unrelated.

Discussed in the 6 individual Instincts sections.

Discussed in the 6 individual Instincts sections.