INFJ - Counselor

Introvert, Intuitive, Feeling, Judging

 

The INFJ is a highly intuitive, artistic, and complex individual who sees the hidden meanings of the world. They are loving and gentle, with tremendous insight into other people and situations. Starting from a young age, INFJs use their intuition to build insight into human nature. As a result, they have an uncanny ability to sense another's emotions or intentions, even before that person is aware of them.

 

They are often on a lifelong quest to use their insight to help and change humanity. Valuing organization in their life, INFJs are constantly redefining their priorities to find the best way to meet their goals. They excel at careers that allow creativity and independence. Acting, writing, music, and science are all professions where they can express their visions and emotions. They also enjoy people-oriented professions such as the clergy, medicine, and teaching.

 

INFJs are extremely adept at relating to people on a one-by-one basis. In fact, they tend to become the confidante of their inner circle of friends. Warm and caring, they can love their partners deeply. They enjoy showing their affection and receiving the same from their partners. As perfectionists, they are forever seeking the perfect union.

 

Unlike Instincts compatibility, Personality compatibility is largely based on personal preference. However, general patterns do exist. Many INFJs find themselves to be most compatible with ENTPs and ENFPs. Generally speaking, they prefer long-term relationships with Intuitive and Perceptive types. More on compatibility can be found under the "In Relationships" tab.

 

About 2% of the U.S. population is INFJ.

 

 

Famous INFJs

 

Aristophanes, writer

Ben Affleck, actor (Good Will Hunting)

Billy Crystal, actor (When Harry Met Sally)

Chaucer, English writer

Evangeline Lilly, actor (Lost)

Friedrich Nietzsche, philosopher

Garry Trudeau, comic writer

Gary Dourdan, actor (CSI)

Jamie Foxx, actor (Ray)

Johann von Goethe, writer

John Katz, writer

Marg Helgenberger, actor (CSI)

Martin Luther King, Jr., civil rights leader

Martin Van Buren, US president

Mel Gibson, actor (Braveheart)

Nathaniel Hawthorne, author (The Scarlet Letter)

Nelson Mandela, South African civil rights leader

Nicole Kidman, actor (Moulin Rouge!)

Piers Anthony, author

Robert Burns, Scottish poet

Sela Ward, actor (CSI)

Tom Selleck, actor (Magnum, P.I.)

 

Fictional

 

Dan Humphrey (Gossip Girl)

Jean Grey (X-Men)

Princess Leia (Star Wars)

 

 

Instincts and Myers Briggs

 

Project Evolove's Instincts determine two people's compatibility while Myers-Briggs personalities determine their day-to-day interactions. Although Myers-Briggs dating is a popular concept, it does not accurately predict compatibility when used without Instincts.

 

SIGN UP: Find your Instincts and meet compatible members! We are non-profit and free. Members can chat with each other or discuss topics on our forum.

 

 

 

Project Evolove's psychology has its basis in Myers-Briggs Theory, Socionics, Enneagrams, and the works of Carl Jung. Notable influences include Personality Page, Type Logic, Enneagrams Institute, Ocean Moonshine, and the works of David Keirsey. The MBTI assessment tool is a separate and unrelated entity.

INFJ Personality

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The rarest personality type, the INFJ is a highly intuitive, artistic, and complex individual who sees the hidden meanings of the world. They are loving and gentle, with tremendous insight into other people and situations. They make decisions based on their values and focus on possibilities.

 

Starting from a young age, INFJs use their intuition to build insight into human nature. As a result, they have an uncanny ability to sense another's emotions or intentions, even before that person is aware of them. Their intuition is more or less spontaneous and they do not fully understand its process. Regardless, they are usually right about their hunches, even when they did not have detailed knowledge of the matter. As a result, they trust and rely on their intuitions. People who are skeptical of decisions made without concrete facts may incorrectly perceive the INFJ as stubborn.

 

INFJs express themselves in different forms based on their abilities. This is because their intuition tells them what works and what does not, while their understanding of human nature allows them to be adaptable. Some INFJs are sage-like, in which they are in a constant search of enlightenment. They will naturally have a desire to mentor the rest of humanity to help it reach a new level of consciousness. Meanwhile, some INFJs may develop a revolutionary spirit. They can see clearly what the future should be and how mankind can get there, but they are frustrated by other people's inability to see what is so obvious. These types may see themselves in a lifelong battle to change humanity. Finally, some INFJs work towards their vision via science. They realize that one way to progress mankind is to learn the language of science and play by its rules.

 

Valuing organization in their life, INFJs are constantly redefining their priorities to find the best way to meet their goals. Many run into difficulty finding a meaningful outlet for self-expression. They can fall into a cycle of self-absorption and self-loathing, wandering from one pursuit to another. They may also fall into a perpetual cycle of self-analysis, trying to sort out their emotions and identity so that they know what to do with their lives.

 

INFJs often shape the culture of the groups that they are in. Through encouragement of behaviors they support and gentle discouragement of behaviors they are against, they create a group culture that reflects their ideals of harmony and love.

 

In rare instances, INFJs may describe psychic-like phenomena. Because they have difficulty explaining the nature of their intuition, many keep their inner thoughts and strong emotional reactions private.

 

INFJs generally do well in school due to their good problem-solving skills, ability to follow-through on tasks, and organization. They are also cooperative in groups, often using their insight into human systems to promote harmony in their own way.

 

INFJ excel at careers that allow creativity and independence, while they dislike work requiring highly proceduralized tasks and superficial social interaction. They are highly poetic and have a talent for the written and spoken language. Acting, writing, music, and science are all professions where they can express their visions and emotions. INFJs also find meaning in people-oriented professions such as the clergy, medicine, and teaching at the university level. Because of their strong desire to help those who are downtrodden, some find meaningful expression in social activism and politics.

 

 

Their Cognitive Functions

 

1. (I)ntroverted I(N)tuition: the ability to perceive the unconscious world and see the underlying patterns behind events. As their second function, INFJs have insight into people and situations.

 

2. Extraverted (F)eeling: the ability to form conclusions about people and to socially organize others. As their primary function, INFJs are warm, friendly social leaders.

 

3. Introverted Thinking: the ability to construct a network of logical connections suggested by external events. As their tertiary function, INFJs are moderately able to grasp complex logical concepts.

 

4. Extraverted Sensing: the ability to pick up on immediate details of the surroundings and grasp how it fits into the rest of the environment. As their inferior function, INFJs dislike carrying out mundane, daily tasks and need ample time to prepare before acting.

 

 

Instincts and Myers Briggs

 

Project Evolove's Instincts determine two people's compatibility while Myers-Briggs personality types determine their day-to-day interactions. Although MBTI dating is a popular concept, it does not accurately predict compatibility when used without Instincts.

 

SIGN UP: Find your Instincts and meet compatible members! We are non-profit and free. Members can chat with each other or discuss topics on our forum.

 

 

 

Project Evolove's psychology has its basis in Myers-Briggs Theory, Socionics, Enneagrams, and the works of Carl Jung. Notable influences include Personality Page, Type Logic, Enneagrams Institute, Ocean Moonshine, and the works of David Keirsey. The MBTI assessment tool is a separate and unrelated entity.

INFJ Relationships


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Before a Relationship

 

Being introverts, INFJs may appear reserved at first. However, they are extremely adept at relating to people on a one-by-one basis. In fact, they tend to become the confidante of their inner circle of friends due to their exceptional ability to nurture others and guide them through their problems. Although INFJs do not care about popularity, they tend to be well-liked among their peers.

 

Those who appreciate the INFJs' unique abilities and depth of compassion are put into a special place by the INFJ. INFJs are keenly in-tune with people's feelings and take great care not to hurt anyone. They are also very patient and protective.

 

With their ability to read people, they usually have no difficulty in connecting with others romantically. While some INFJs may take advantage of this ability, it is generally not within their value system to manipulate others for their own gain. Meanwhile, some INFJs are so considerate of other people's feelings that they become anxious when flirting, afraid of causing the other person discomfort.

 

 

During a Relationship

 

Warm and caring, INFJs can love their partners deeply. They enjoy showing their affection and receiving the same from their partners. As perfectionists, they are forever seeking the perfect union. They may try to work on their partners in an attempt to create that perfection. This tendency may be aggravating to the partner or it may be endearing, as the attempt the better the relationship is honest and signifies a unique level of caring.

 

INFJs need to find meaningful outlets to express their emotions. Those who do not may become overly absorbed in self-analysis. They may feel isolated from the external world, losing connection from their partners.

 

They enjoy giving praise to others to help motivate them. Likewise, they respond to approval. They value harmony and are particularly sensitive to conflict. If conflict situations persist, INFJs may become unhappy, anxious, and paralyzed. Often internalizing conflict, they may become physically ill.

 

 

Sex

 

INFJs view sex as a fantastical, spiritual experience that allows them to emotionally connect with their loved one. Sex is a tangible way for them to selflessly demonstrate their love. Because they strongly care about the well-being of others, it is important for them to make their partners happy. However, they only become physical with their partners when they choose to be. This behavior may sometimes be confusing.

 

 

Compatibility

 

Unlike Instincts compatibility, Personality compatibility is largely based on personal preference. However, general patterns do exist.

 

With a strong Introverted Intuition function, INFJs are better understood and appreciated by other Intuitives. With the Judging characteristic, INFJs are naturally the ones who "steer the ship". Thus, they are better paired with Perceivers, who tend to "go with the flow". Specifically, they are most suitable with those who have strong Extraverted Intuition functions, such as the ENTP and the ENFP. How this is derived can be found here.

 

 

ENTP - INFJ

 

ENTPs bring spontaneity and new ways to interact with the world to the INFJ. They provide the INFJ with novel, intellectual ideas to reflect upon. INFJs' natural decision-making skills provide ENTPs with stability and direction, especially in emotional and social matters. By gently and caringly guiding the ENTPs, INFJs help them become their best.

 

 

ENFP - INFJ


ENFPs bring a new level of joy, creativity, and spontaneity to the INFJs life. By making sense of the world using their feelings and intuition, ENFPs allow INFJs to be more in touch with their own ethics and sense of humanity. INFJs' natural decision-making skills provide ENFPs with stability and direction, especially in emotional and social matters. By gently and caringly guiding the ENFPs, INFJs help them become their best.

 

 

Instincts and Myers Briggs

 

Project Evolove's Instincts determine two people's compatibility while Myers-Briggs typology determines their day-to-day interactions. Although Myers-Briggs matchmaking is a popular concept, it does not accurately predict compatibility when used without Instincts.

 

SIGN UP: Find your Instincts and meet compatible members! We are non-profit and free. Members can chat with each other or discuss topics on our forum.

 

 

 

Project Evolove's psychology has its basis in Myers-Briggs Theory, Socionics, Enneagrams, and the works of Carl Jung. Notable influences include Personality Page, Type Logic, Enneagrams Institute, Ocean Moonshine, and the works of David Keirsey. The MBTI assessment tool is a separate and unrelated entity.

INFJ Career & Other Info

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How INFJs relate to other Types


INFJ: Identity - They are the same types. Feeling like they are competing in the same space, the two may initially oppose each other. However, they usually recognize their similarities and begin to cooperate.

ENFJ: Pal - Similar worldviews, goals, and thoughts. The Introvert is more original while the Extravert is better at implementing ideas and plans. They get along at work and at play.

INFP: Complement - They have interests in similar realms but their strengths have opposite emphasis. They solve the same problem with different approaches and for different reasons.

ENFP: Contrast - They have the same order of functions but the Introvert/Extravert direction of each function is reversed. They have similar interests but the Perceiver thinks of possibilities while the Judger thinks of plans. They have different goals and opposite emphasis in strengths.

ISTP: Supplement -They have the same functions in different order. One's weaker strengths are the other's stronger strengths. Their strengths can add to each other.

ESTP: Anima - They have the same functions but in reverse order. Each sees the other as having strengths that the former wishes to improve upon.

ISFP: Suitemate - The two enjoy the same environment and have little interpersonal friction. They do not have anything in common but can enjoy everyday activities together.

ESFP: Cohort - The two find each other in the same activities only when one is stressed out and wishes to "escape" from normalcy.

INTJ: Companion - They have the same primary function. The two have a mutual understanding of each other and can talk on a deep, honest level.

ENTJ: Tribesman - They have similar cultures and are often found in the same social groups. They have different strengths and will be pursuing goals independent of each other.

INTP: Advisor - Each has insight that the other lacks. They find each other to be a source of fresh perspectives and enjoy each other's company.

ENTP: Pedagogue - Each has insight and strength that the other lacks. They develop a parent-child relationship.

ISTJ: Enigma - They are complete mysteries to each other. They have different goals and strengths.

ESTJ: Novelty - Their differences are so striking that they are curious about each other. They sometimes run into conflict due to their fundamental differences in worldview.

ISFJ: Neighbor - The two are often found in the same jobs or walks of life, but they reached their position through completely different means.

ESFJ: Counterpart - The two perform the same functions but are in different realms. They have mutual respect for each other but do not necessarily wish they had the same skillset as the other.



INFJs As Parents

 

INFJs make very loving, devoted parents. Having high expectations for their children's achievements, they are good at providing discipline and education. They tend to emphasize morals and values. They treat their children with respect, allowing them to be heard. They are able to form deep, emotional connections with their children. While this is largely a terrific ability, some INFJs, particularly female ones, sometimes develop such a symbiosis with their children that it borders on dependency. Generally, however, they foster great relations with their children who turn into responsible, ethical adults.

 

 

INFJ Occupations

 

INFJs enjoy careers that allow them to use their creativity on a daily basis and give them an outlet for their inner humanitarian visions. They like working with people, especially when they can tend to their growth and development. They prefer friendly, meaningful atmospheres in which people interact genuinely rather than superficially. They need to have control over their own schedule and responsibilities. They also prefer to work on long-range projects with minimal technical, procedural tasks. They like to be respected for their unique contributions and integrity.

 

 

Potential Career Paths (INFJ Jobs)

 

Animator

Artist

Biomedical Engineer

Chiropractor

Clergy

Clinical Psychologist

Corporate Trainer

Counselor

Curator

Dental Hygienist

Editor

Elementary Teacher

Environmental Attorney

Environmental Scientist

Family Physician

Food Scientist

Genealogist

Graphic Designer

Health Care Administrator

HR Manager or Recruiter

Interior Designer

Legal Mediator

Librarian

Market Researcher

Massage Therapist

Medical Researcher

Musician

Nutritionist

Occupational Therapist

Organizational Psychologist

Pathologist

Physical Therapist

Physician Assistant

Psychiatrist

Public Health Educator

Religious Educator

School Counselor

Social Scientist

Social Worker

Special Education Teacher

Speech Pathologist

Surgeon

Technical Writer

Translator

Writer

 

 

Instincts and Myers Briggs

 

Project Evolove's Instincts determine two people's compatibility while Myers Briggs psychology determines their day-to-day interactions. Although using MBTI for relationships is a popular concept, it does not accurately predict compatibility when used without Instincts.

 

SIGN UP: Find your Instincts and meet compatible members! We are non-profit and free. Members can chat with each other or discuss topics on our forum.

 

 

 

Project Evolove's psychology has its basis in Myers-Briggs Theory, Socionics, Enneagrams, and the works of Carl Jung. Notable influences include Personality Page, Type Logic, Enneagrams Institute, Ocean Moonshine, and the works of David Keirsey. The MBTI assessment tool is a separate and unrelated entity.