ESFJ - Provider

Extraverted, Sensing, Feeling, Judging

 

ESFJs are warm, caring people who bring out the best in others. Giving and generous, they enjoy making others happy. They are generally popular as they make others feel good about themselves. Being very socially adept, ESFJs often tailor their behavior to each person so that they can be more amiable.

 

Seeing service as a moral duty, they dedicate their time to make sure that necessary tasks are completed. In addition, they see all of the dangers in the world and are naturally protective. For all of these reasons, they have a natural ability to provide care for people, especially those unable to care for themselves, such as children or the elderly.

 

ESFJs are visible community leaders. They have a great desire to foster traditional social institutions, such the home, church, and school. In relationships, they are loyal and committed. They are happy when they can be of service to their partners and when they feel appreciated for their contribution.

 

Unlike Instincts compatibility, Personality compatibility is largely based on personal preference. However, general patterns do exist. Many ESFJs find themselves to be most compatible with ISFPs and INFPs. Generally speaking, they prefer long-term relationships with Feeling and Perceptive types. More on compatibility can be found under the "In Relationships" tab.

 

About 11% of the U.S. population is ESFJ.

 

 

Famous ESFJs

Captain America, fictional superhero

Danny Glover, actor (Lethal Weapon)

Desi Arnaz, actor (I Love Lucy)

Leonard "Bones" McCoy, actor (Star Trek)

Mary Tyler Moore, TV personality (Mary Tyler Moore Show)

Nancy Kerrigan, figure skater

Rachel McAdams, actor (Mean Girls)

Sally Field, actor (Sybil)

Sally Struthers, actor (Gilmore Girls)

Steve Spurrier, USC football coach

Terry Bradshaw, NFL quarterback

William McKinley, US president

 

Fictional

 

Babbitt (Sinclair Lewis)

Bree Van de Kamp (Desperate Housewives)

Captain America (Captain America)

Donald Duck (Disney character)

Mrs. Molly Weasley (Harry Potter)

Rabbit (Winnie the Pooh)

 

 

Instincts and Myers Briggs

 

Project Evolove's Instincts determine two people's compatibility while Myers-Briggs determines their day-to-day interactions. Although Myers-Briggs dating is a popular concept, it does not accurately predict compatibility when used without Instincts.

 

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Project Evolove's psychology has its basis in Myers-Briggs Theory, Socionics, Enneagrams, and the works of Carl Jung. Notable influences include Personality Page, Type Logic, Enneagrams Institute, Ocean Moonshine, and the works of David Keirsey. The MBTI assessment tool is a separate and unrelated entity.

ESFJ Personality

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ESFJs are warm, caring people who bring out the best in others. They understand other people because they are naturally in tune with people's emotions. Giving and generous, they enjoy making others happy. ESFJs would eagerly give someone the shirt off of their backs if that person were in need.

 

They gather facts about a person and use their values to draw conclusions. This process involves a strong, oftentimes conflicting internal response in which they decide what is right and what is wrong. They use their conclusion to express either supportive or reprimanding judgments. Because of their nurturing nature, they tend to offer warms words far more than critical words. They are generally popular as they make others feel good about themselves. Being very socially adept, ESFJs often tailor their behavior to each person so that they can be more amiable.

 

ESFJs respect tradition, and believe others to do the same. They are known to be the ones hosting birthday and holiday celebrations. They readily maintain social mores, rules, and hierarchies based on seniority. However, their firm loyalty to authority may sometimes cause them to follow policies blindly without considering their underlying reasoning.

 

In both task-oriented and socially-oriented situations, ESFJs can usually sense what actions are necessary before the group can. Seeing service as a moral duty, they would make sure the task is completed as quickly as possible. In addition, they see all of the dangers in the world and are naturally protective. For all of these reasons, they have a natural ability to provide care for people, especially those unable to care for themselves, such as children or the elderly.

 

Seeking order and stability, ESFJs like to control their surroundings. They are especially adept at organizing people in social situations so that the group functions efficiently and harmoniously. Sometimes, however, ESFJs express judgment too quickly, especially in complex or abstract situations. ESFJs must be careful to not exert control when their leadership is not warranted.

 

The ESFJs' values are derived from their communities. In this manner, their moral codes are highly dependent on their upbringing. Those raised under healthy values systems will be the kindest people on the planet. However, those raised under unfavorable environments may develop skewed values systems, for they have no set of internally-derived values against which they can use as comparison. These unfortunate ESFJs may inadvertently become manipulative and controlling, although they may believe themselves to be the martyr.

 

Warm and kind, ESFJs help the society by providing support to others. Their energetic and selfless nature makes them ideal nurses and elementary teachers. They also make terrific salespeople, as they personalize each sale. Their organization and people skills also make them great administrators and events coordinators.

 

 

Their Cognitive Functions

 

1. (E)xtraverted (F)eeling: the ability to form conclusions about people and to socially organize others. As their primary function, ENFJs are warm, friendly social leaders.

 

2. Introverted (S)ensing: the ability to remember facts in an internally organized fashion. As their second function, ESFJs have a well-organized memory of details and facts.

 

3. Extraverted Intuition: the ability to see patterns in events and to see possibilities of where things may go. As their tertiary function, ESFJs have some ability to imagine future possibilities.

 

4. Introverted Thinking: the ability to construct a network of logical connections suggested by external events. As their inferior function, ESFJs are sometimes prone to making decisions solely based on feelings rather than logic.

 

 

Instincts and Myers Briggs

 

Project Evolove's Instincts determine two people's compatibility while Myers Briggs determines their day-to-day interactions. Although MBTI dating is a popular concept, it does not accurately predict compatibility when used without Instincts.

 

SIGN UP: Find your Instincts and meet compatible members! We are non-profit and free. Members can chat with each other or discuss topics on our forum.

 

 

 

Project Evolove's psychology has its basis in Myers-Briggs Theory, Socionics, Enneagrams, and the works of Carl Jung. Notable influences include Personality Page, Type Logic, Enneagrams Institute, Ocean Moonshine, and the works of David Keirsey. The MBTI assessment tool is a separate and unrelated entity.

ESFJ Relationships


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Before a Relationship

 

ESFJs are visible community leaders. They have a great desire to foster social institutions, such the home, church, and school. Often hosting parties, they strengthen the bonds of social circles by setting norms and making sure everyone has a good time.

 

They are attracted to those who let them do what they do best - providing service to others. Thus, they enjoy spending time with those who can appreciate their nurture the most. On the other hand, they may also enter into relationships with those who share their values and are highly committed to providing for a family.

 

 

During a Relationship

 

They make loyal, committed partners. They are happy when they can be of service to their partners and when they feel appreciated for their contribution.

 

Traditionally minded, ESFJs will make certain to fulfill their commitments. Valuing security and practicality, they work dutifully at their jobs to provide for their families. While they are generous towards others, they tend to be fiscally conservative towards themselves, unless they are purchasing something that demonstrates their social status or enhances their ability to give to others. ESFJs also take great responsibility in caring for those in their family that need help, such as their elderly parents.

 

Their desire to be involved in social circles provides their partners with fun social connections and a sense of belonging. Likewise, they place great value on the social appearances. While these traits generally benefit their partners by helping them integrate into the community, it may be seen as excessive if the partners do not share the same goals.

 

ESFJs wear their emotions on their sleeve and are not afraid to express them. When they admire someone, they will do so with lavish praise. On the other hand, when they do not feel adequately appreciated or when they have formed a negative judgment against someone, they may lash out in anger. Their words can be bitingly harsh and are not meant to be taken literally, as they merely reflect the intensity of underlying feelings.

 

In addition, ESFJs tend to take criticism as a rejection of who they are. They may become down on themselves and exaggerate the self-sacrifice they have given for their partners. This behavior typically induces guilt in others. This can especially be a problem when their partners are Thinking types, who may have difficulty understanding the ESFJs' emotional needs, deeming this behavior manipulative. It behooves the ESFJ to realize that conflicts are not always an attack on their self-worth. Likewise, their partners need to realize that ESFJs need appreciation, even though an ESFJ will never verbalize it.

 

 

Sex

 

ESFJs view sex as an opportunity to demonstrate their affection. They derive satisfaction from their partner's happiness. Because they value organization and social norms, they prefer sex at the proper time and place. They are generally traditional in their sexual behaviors, unless they are shown different ways in which they can please their partners.

 

 

Compatibility

 

Unlike Instincts compatibility, Personality compatibility is largely based on personal preference. However, general patterns do exist.

 

With a strong Extraverted Feeling function, ESFJs are better understood and appreciated by other Feelers. With the Judging characteristic, ESFJs are naturally the ones who "keep the ship on track". Thus, they are better paired with Perceivers, who tend to "go with the flow". Specifically, they are most suitable with those who have strong Introverted Feeling functions, such as the ISFP and the INFP. How this is derived can be found here.

 

 

ESFJ - ISFP

 

ISFPs help ESFJs enjoy the finer things in life. Using their empathy, ISFPs provide ESFJs with genuine appreciation and support. ISFPs can also be a source of fun, creative activities that the ESFJ can bring up in positions of social leadership. The ESFJ's ability to connect with others makes ISFPs feel comfortable in expressing themselves. With the ESFJs' desire to provide for others, they allow ISFPs to pursue their creative and personal ambitions in a secure, well-maintained environment.

 

 

ESFJ - INFP

 

INFPs bring a deeper sense of meaning and values into the ESFJ's life. Using their empathy, INFPs provide ESFJs with genuine appreciation and support. INFPs also lay out a moral compass that the ESFJ can refer to when in positions of social leadership. The ESFJ's ability to connect with others makes INFPs feel comfortable in expressing their emotions and ideas. ESFJs allow INFPs to be creative and unique in a secure, well-maintained environment. In summary, ESFJs help INFPs develop their ideals, and INFPs give ESFJs ideals to implement.

 

 

Instincts and Myers Briggs

 

Project Evolove's Instincts determine two people's compatibility while Myers Briggs determines their day-to-day interactions. Although Myers Briggs matchmaking is a popular concept, it does not accurately predict compatibility when used without Instincts.

 

SIGN UP: Find your Instincts and meet compatible members! We are non-profit and free. Members can chat with each other or discuss topics on our forum.

 

 

 

Project Evolove's psychology has its basis in Myers-Briggs Theory, Socionics, Enneagrams, and the works of Carl Jung. Notable influences include Personality Page, Type Logic, Enneagrams Institute, Ocean Moonshine, and the works of David Keirsey. The MBTI assessment tool is a separate and unrelated entity.

ESFJ Career & Other Info

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How ESFJs relate to other Types

 

ESFJ: Identity - They are the same types. Feeling like they are competing in the same space, the two may initially oppose each other. However, they usually recognize their similarities and begin to cooperate.

ISFJ: Pal - Similar worldviews, goals, and thoughts. The Introvert is more original while the Extravert is better at implementing ideas and plans. They get along at work and at play.

ESFP: Complement - They have interests in similar realms but their strengths have opposite emphasis. They solve the same problem with different approaches and for different reasons.

ISFP: Contrast - They have the same order of functions but the Introvert/Extravert direction of each function is reversed. They have similar interests but the Perceiver thinks of possibilities while the Judger thinks of plans. They have different goals and opposite emphasis in strengths.

ENTP: Supplement -They have the same functions in different order. One's weaker strengths are the other's stronger strengths. Their strengths can add to each other.

INTP: Anima - They have the same functions but in reverse order. Each sees the other as having strengths that the former wishes to improve upon.

ENFP: Suitemate - The two enjoy the same environment and have little interpersonal friction. They do not have anything in common but can enjoy everyday activities together.

INFP: Cohort - The two find each other in the same activities only when one is stressed out and wishes to "escape" from normalcy.

ESTJ: Companion - They have the same primary function. The two have a mutual understanding of each other and can talk on a deep, honest level.

ISTJ: Tribesman - They have similar cultures and are often found in the same social groups. They have different strengths and will be pursuing goals independent of each other.

ESTP: Advisor - Each has insight that the other lacks. They find each other to be a source of fresh perspectives and enjoy each other's company.

ISTP: Pedagogue - Each has insight and strength that the other lacks. They develop a parent-child relationship.

ENTJ: Enigma - They are complete mysteries to each other. They have different goals and strengths.

INTJ: Novelty - Their differences are so striking that they are curious about each other. They sometimes run into conflict due to their fundamental differences in worldview.

ENTJ: Neighbor - The two are often found in the same jobs or walks of life, but they reached their position through completely different means.

INFJ: Counterpart - The two perform the same functions but are in different realms. They have mutual respect for each other but do not necessarily wish they had the same skillset as the other.

 
 

ESFJs As Parents

 

When raising children, ESFJs are good at providing structured environments where all of their children's physical needs are met. They tend to be strict, expecting honor and obedience from their children. However, they may have difficulty using discipline because of their empathy. Some inadvertently rely on using of guilt to elicit actions from others.

 

They pass down their values as a clear code of what one should do and should not do. They feel personally responsible for how their children turn out, taking great pride in their successes and feeling tremendous loss in their failures. Hardworking and responsible, they are good providers of financial stability. They also instill their strong work ethic into their children.

 


ESFJ Occupations

 

ESFJs enjoy work that has a direct and tangible positive effect on people. They like to establish warm, meaningful relationships with others, as appreciation from the people they work with are their main motivations. They work with swift action and decisiveness, and do best in careers that do not demand too much theory and abstraction. They prefer stable, well-organized environments with clearly defined rules and expectations. They expect to be compensated for their hard work and tangible results. They like to have control over the details of their projects.

 

 

Potential Career Paths (ESFJ Jobs)

 

    Buyer

    Caterer

    Child Care Provider

    Corporate Trainer

    Cosmetologist

    Counselor

    Court Reporter

    Dentist

    Elementary Teacher

    Family Physician

    Fitness Trainer

    Health Care Administrator

    Hotel Manager

    HR Manager

    Medical Assistant

    Minister

    Nurse

    Optometrist

    Paralegal

    Physical Therapist

    Police Officer

    Public Relations Manager

    Real Estate Appraiser

    School Administrator

    Social Worker

    Special Education Teacher

    Speech Pathologist

    Surgeon

    Technical Writer

 

 

Instincts and Myers Briggs

 

Project Evolove's Instincts determine two people's compatibility while Myers Briggs determines their day-to-day interactions. Although using Myers Briggs in relationships is a popular concept, it does not accurately predict compatibility when used without Instincts.

 

SIGN UP: Find your Instincts and meet compatible members! We are non-profit and free. Members can chat with each other or discuss topics on our forum.

 

 

 

Project Evolove's psychology has its basis in Myers-Briggs Theory, Socionics, Enneagrams, and the works of Carl Jung. Notable influences include Personality Page, Type Logic, Enneagrams Institute, Ocean Moonshine, and the works of David Keirsey. The MBTI assessment tool is a separate and unrelated entity.