secure-sexual
Summary

 

 

"To establish a secure living where I can pursue personal interests."
Appearance: detached, calm, self-absorbed, wistful.
Role
: soloist, artisan, mercenary, sensualist, hedonist.

 

This type is intense within but seem withdrawn to others. They exude a quiet, mysterious aura. They build a fortress of independence and emotional security around themselves, selectively stepping out to seek intimacy and intense experiences. This may create a pull-push effect, in which they draw others in but detach when they feel like they may get hurt.

In the few interpersonal bonds they form, their loyalty is exceptionally strong, for they value the security the union provides. These bonds are formed at a visceral level, without social formalities. While mostly unaware of a group's social dynamics, they can read individuals with accuracy. Their home is their sanctuary, and they take pride in furnishing their surroundings.

 

Their ideal partners are the , , and . Further information can be found under the “In Relationships” tab. Secure-Sexuals often have the Personality Types of ISTP, ENTP, ESTP, INFP, INTJ, ISTJ, and INTP.

 

 

 

Project Evolove's psychology has its basis in Myers Briggs compatibility, Socionics, Enneagrams, and the works of Carl Jung. Notable influences include Personality Page, Type Logic, Enneagrams Institute, Ocean Moonshine, and the works of David Keirsey. The MBTI assessment tool and MBTI compatibility is separate and unrelated.

Description



Primary Instinct: Secure

 

Those with the Secure Primary Instinct are concerned with "nesting and nurturing." Focused on protecting the self, they ensure that its physical needs, comfort, health, and self-sufficiency are met. They are keenly aware of their environment, such as its temperature, safety, and cleanliness. They are inclined to make their surroundings healthy and comfortable. They need personal space and privacy while they avoid situations that make them dependent or vulnerable.

 

They tend to be grounded and stable. Compared to other types, they may appear more mature and disciplined, as they are focused on practical matters. They enjoy nourishing themselves and others physically, such as with food or clothing. They prefer durable, material goods over intangible entities. They tend to preserve memories, traditions, rituals, and family heirlooms.

 

 

Secondary Instinct: Sexual

 

The Sexual Instinct is channeled to serve the needs of the Secure Instinct. The result is that Secure-Sexuals build a fortress of independence and emotional security around themselves, selectively stepping out to seek intimacy and intense experiences. These experiences are meaningful to them, though others may not understand. Ultimately, these experiences enhance their sense of security and self-sufficiency.

 

They are intense within but seem withdrawn to others. They exude a quiet, mysterious aura. While mostly unaware of a group's social dynamics, they can read individuals with accuracy. In the few interpersonal bonds they form, their loyalty is exceptionally strong, for they value the security the union provides. These bonds are formed at a visceral level, without social formalities. Their home is their sanctuary, and they take pride in furnishing their surroundings.

 

 

Potential Weaknesses

 

The Primary Instinct can be both a strength and a weakness. When people with the Secure Primary Instinct become overly preoccupied with its fulfillment, they may obsessively worry about health. This may lead to eating disorders, obsessions with cleanliness, or excessive exercise routines. Likewise, some may become needlessly anxious about financial matters or mortality.

 

Secure-Sexuals have the Social Instinct as their least dominant Instinct. As a result, they may have difficulty cultivating multiple social connections. They may be unable to navigate the social realm to obtain their needs. Unaware of how their actions affect others, they may cause miscommunications and group dysfunction. Some may reject the help and camaraderie of their community, preferring social isolation.

 

The dominant Instinct is often used to compensate for the least dominant Instinct. For instance, those who are Secure-Sexual may form an alliance with someone that they can trust to help them navigate in social realms.




Project Evolove's psychology has its basis in Myers Briggs compatibility, Socionics, Enneagrams, and the works of Carl Jung. Notable influences include Personality Page, Type Logic, Enneagrams Institute, Ocean Moonshine, and the works of David Keirsey. The MBTI assessment tool and MBTI compatibility is separate and unrelated.

Relationships

 

 

In relationships, they seek trust, loyalty, and intimacy. They demonstrate their loyalty by standing firmly with their partners at all times, through good times and bad. They do not care for the social status of their partners, or the opinions of others. If they had to choose, they will prefer a loyal partner over someone who is highly desirable and sought after by others.

 

They value independence and respect other people's privacy. They generally maintain a protective shield around their deepest core to prevent themselves from being dependent and vulnerable. They selectively step out to seek intimacy. If they feel that their personal space is made vulnerable, they will withdraw, but not necessarily leave. This may create a pull-push effect, in which they draw others in but detach when they feel like they may get hurt. A marriage to them is a sacred contract that should never be broken, unless the spouse breaks the agreement first. When the Secure-Sexual is hurt, they may prefer to act out indirectly, rather than show what they consider to be a weakness. Abandonment is their biggest fear, and betrayal is their biggest insult.

 

 

Compatibility

 

A couple with similar Instincts is most compatible because it allows the two to walk in the same direction. This is the opposite from Personality, in which “complements” attract. Walking in the same direction allows a couple to reach mutually agreeable decisions, while having complementary Personalities allows the couple to solve problems using different perspectives. The latter also adds a sense of freshness to the relationship while preventing overlapping identities.

 

Their ideal partners are the Secure-Sexuals, Secure-Socials, and Sexual-Secures.

 

 

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They can feel a deep sense of trust and intimacy with each other. The two will likely be engaged in its own pursuits and activities while the rest of the world feels like a backdrop. They will be strongly connected to each other but still give each other independence.

 

 

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They can feel a deep sense of trust and intimacy with each other. The Secure-Sexual keeps the couple a little more grounded and makes sure that the relationship has some sense of boundaries. The Sexual-Secure enjoys the security provided by the Secure-Sexual and furthers the relationship with new, stimulating activities that explore the depth of the bond.

 

 

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Having the same Primary Instinct, they feel comfortable and Secure in each other’s company. The Secure-Social partner helps the couple integrate into society while the Secure-Sexual helps the couple enjoy new, exciting experiences together.

 

 

Incompatible Partners

 

If paired with someone without the Secure Instinct, they will feel unable to fully trust their partner. Their partner may appear to care more about the world at large than about the couple itself. Likewise, they may feel that the partner is too invasive, or demands too much interaction. Meanwhile, incompatible partners will feel that Secure-Sexuals have an inner core that can never be penetrated, or that they are not putting themselves fully into the relationship. The former may also feel as if the Secure-Sexual is holding them back from their worldly aspirations.

 

 

 

Project Evolove's psychology has its basis in Myers Briggs compatibility, Socionics, Enneagrams, and the works of Carl Jung. Notable influences include Personality Page, Type Logic, Enneagrams Institute, Ocean Moonshine, and the works of David Keirsey. The MBTI assessment tool and MBTI compatibility is separate and unrelated.

Career

 

 

Secure-Sexuals feel most fulfilled when working on projects that are in line with the goals of their Primary Instinct. Namely, they wish to find new ways to improve safety, physical comfort, and material security. With a Sexual Secondary Instinct, they are able to take necessary risks and use their creativity to help achieve the aims of their Primary Instinct. Thus, they prefer careers that allow them to use creative, stimulating means to achieve practical results.

 

 

Examples of careers that they may enjoy include:

 

Airline Pilot
Athlete
Craftsman
Detective
Entrepreneur
Industrial Designer
Mechanical Engineer
Media Technician/Visual Artist
Medical Researcher
Surgeon

 

 

 

Project Evolove's psychology has its basis in Myers Briggs compatibility, Socionics, Enneagrams, and the works of Carl Jung. Notable influences include Personality Page, Type Logic, Enneagrams Institute, Ocean Moonshine, and the works of David Keirsey. The MBTI assessment tool and MBTI compatibility is separate and unrelated.