Summary

 


"To understand the mind and soul, and to find the perfect union."
Appearance: brooding, intense, immersed, fantastical.
Role: mystic, wanderer, soul mate, lover, seducer.

 

This type is on an eternal search for the missing piece. They channel their sexual energy inwards to explore the imaginations that come from their subconscious. Their ambitions are personal in nature and do not necessarily have a social cause. They often have a naturally seductive, sexual charisma that manifests as a fantastical, erotic playfulness or an untouchable aura to others. They may feel torn between the urge to explore and a secure living.

In relationships, they may feel conflicted about their intense passion for their partner and their desire to guard themselves from getting hurt. When they find a soul mate, they quietly bond with an exceptional level of intimacy. Once connected, they have difficulty letting go. When anxious or depressed, they may seclude themselves for extended periods, seeking understanding from within. Their sexual tension occasionally manifests as volatile, self-destructive behaviors when stressed.

 

Their ideal partners are the , , and. Further information can be found under the “In Relationships” tab. Sexual-Secures often have the Personality Types of INFJ, INTP, INTJ, INFP, and ENFJ.

 

 

Project Evolove's psychology has its basis in Myers Briggs compatibility, Socionics, Enneagrams, and the works of Carl Jung. Notable influences include Personality Page, Type Logic, Enneagrams Institute, Ocean Moonshine, and the works of David Keirsey. The MBTI assessment tool and MBTI compatibility is separate and unrelated.

Description

 

 

Primary Instinct: Sexual

 

Those with the Sexual Primary Instinct are devoted to transmitting something meaningful to future generations, whether it is their genes or their ideas. It also means they wish to become "one" with another entity, which they achieve by seeking intense, original experiences that fully engage them. This tendency manifests as their intense desire to form intimate, one-on-one connections with people and as their passionate pursuit of hobbies and interests. Without satisfying these desires, they feel incomplete. Their passion and creativity result from the repression and rechanneling of their sexual drive.

 

They live a life of intensity, often taking risks to achieve their ideals. Because they wish to spread their “self” onto other entities, they tend to be good at drawing attention to themselves and their ideas. They have an expanded construct of the self and they are willing to sacrifice themselves for people or ideas that they care most about.

 

 

Secondary Instinct: Secure

 

The Secure Instinct is channeled to serve the needs of the Sexual Instinct. The result is that this type is able to deflect sexual energy inwards using the Secure Instinct. This inwards sexual energy allows them to explore the imaginations from their subconscious and uncover deep insights of the Self. The Secure Instinct also acts as a protective shield that is activated whenever the Sexual Instinct expands the Self too much.

 

They appear to be on an eternal search for the missing piece. Their ambitions are personal in nature, without a direct social cause. They may have a naturally seductive, sexual charisma that manifests as a fantastical, erotic playfulness or an untouchable aura to others.

 

In relationships, they may feel conflicted about their intense passion for their partner and their desire to guard themselves from getting hurt. When anxious or depressed, they may seclude themselves for extended periods, seeking understanding from within. They often feel torn between the urge to explore and a stable living. The tension between the Sexual and Secure Instincts occasionally manifests as volatile, self-destructive behaviors when stressed.

 

 

Potential Weaknesses

 

The Primary Instinct can be both a strength and a weakness. When people with the Sexual Primary Instinct become overly preoccupied with its fulfillment, they may be bored with reality and indulge in excessive risk-taking, self-medication, or thrill-seeking. Some may disregard protective boundaries of the self and develop issues with possessiveness or dependency in their relationships.

 

Sexual-Secures have the Social Instinct as their least dominant Instinct. As a result, they may have difficulty cultivating multiple social connections. While they have no difficulty bonding with individuals, they may have difficulty navigating social realms to obtain their needs. Unaware of how their actions affect others, they may cause miscommunications and group dysfunction. Some may reject the help and camaraderie of their community, preferring social isolation.

 

The dominant Instinct is often used to compensate for the least dominant Instinct. For instance, those who are Sexual-Secure may form exceptionally close relationships with a few select friends who can help them navigate the social realm.

 

 

 

Project Evolove's psychology has its basis in Myers Briggs compatibility, Socionics, Enneagrams, and the works of Carl Jung. Notable influences include Personality Page, Type Logic, Enneagrams Institute, Ocean Moonshine, and the works of David Keirsey. The MBTI assessment tool and MBTI compatibility is separate and unrelated.

Relationships

 

 

In relationships, they seek closeness, loyalty, and meaningful sex. Mentally and emotionally, they wish to be able to fully open up to their partners, and they are most fulfilled when their partners do the same. Sex to them is far more than a physical act. In fact, those who simply see sex as a vessel for physical pleasure more than likely do not possess the Sexual Primary Instinct.

 

They idealize about potential partners, always longing for the perfect union. When they find a soul mate, they quietly bond with an exceptional level of intimacy. Since they rarely engage in social formalities, the partner may be unaware of the level of intimacy that the Secure-Sexual has until much later. Once connected, they have difficulty letting go, even though they may still fantasize about more perfect relationships.

 

They are keenly aware of the intimacy between themselves and their partners. They see intimacy, or closeness, as the measure of how healthy the relationship is. They will feel conflicted and frustrated in relationships in which they cannot fully bond, but they will become “one” with their partners in ones that are a good fit. The passion and loyalty they have for former partners does not fade. Instead, it is overshadowed by someone that they can feel can provide more closeness and trust. They enjoy marriage for the security that it provides. Dullness is their biggest fear, and personal rejection is their biggest insult.

 

 

Compatibility

 

A couple with similar Instincts is most compatible because it allows the two to walk in the same direction. This is the opposite from Personality, in which “complements” attract. Walking in the same direction allows a couple to reach mutually agreeable decisions, while having complementary Personalities allows the couple to solve problems using different perspectives. The latter also adds a sense of freshness to the relationship while preventing overlapping identities.

 

Their ideal partners are the Sexual-Secures, Sexual-Socials, and Secure-Sexuals.

 


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They will have an intimate, sexual, and loyal relationship. The two will be engaged in finding new, stimulating ways to further the intimacy and “oneness” of the relationship. The rest of the world will act as merely a backdrop as the couple explores the depth of their relationship.

 

 

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They can feel a deep sense of trust and intimacy with each other. The Secure-Sexual keeps the couple a little more grounded and makes sure that the relationship has some sense of boundaries. The Sexual-Secure enjoys the security provided by the Secure-Sexual and furthers the relationship with new, stimulating activities that explore the depth of the bond.

 

 

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The two will have an intimate, powerful, and sexual relationship. They will be engaged in finding new, stimulating ways to demonstrate their energy and passion. The Sexual-Social will divert some of this energy into fulfilling worldly pursuits, while the Sexual-Secure will increase the level of depth of the relationship.

 

 

Incompatible Partners

 

If paired with someone without the Sexual Instinct, they will feel that the relationship lacks intimacy. This feeling will make them feel incomplete, and they will yearn for someone that can make them whole. In addition, they will feel a lack of depth in the sex, which is perhaps the most obvious sign that the partner is incompatible. Meanwhile, incompatible partners will feel that the Sexual-Secure is too invasive, expecting an unreasonable level of closeness. In addition, the former may feel that Sexual-Secures are too lost in their own minds and too far removed from the community.

 

 

 

Project Evolove's psychology has its basis in Myers Briggs compatibility, Socionics, Enneagrams, and the works of Carl Jung. Notable influences include Personality Page, Type Logic, Enneagrams Institute, Ocean Moonshine, and the works of David Keirsey. The MBTI assessment tool and MBTI compatibility is separate and unrelated.

Career

 

 

Sexual-Secures feel most fulfilled when working on projects that are in line with the goals of their Primary Instinct. Namely, they wish to fully engage themselves in creative, stimulating projects that promote the growth of something new. With a Secure Secondary Instinct, they have a greater awareness of themselves and their physical resources so that they can better achieve the aims of their Primary Instinct. Thus, they prefer careers that allow them to use their self-awareness to engage in an intense, stimulating career.

 

 

Examples of careers that they may enjoy include:

 

Artist

Clergy

Linguist/Poet

Musician

Physicist

Psychologist

Scientific Researcher

Software Developer

University Academic/Faculty

Writer

 

 

 

Project Evolove's psychology has its basis in Myers Briggs compatibility, Socionics, Enneagrams, and the works of Carl Jung. Notable influences include Personality Page, Type Logic, Enneagrams Institute, Ocean Moonshine, and the works of David Keirsey. The MBTI assessment tool and MBTI compatibility is separate and unrelated.