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    • June 23, 2015 9:03:26 AM PDT
    • I like a little bit of everything. Sporting events, concerts, lectures, adventures, bookstores.... I think the main advice I have for an INFJ is to not be afraid to put yourself out there. ENTPs aren't as keen as reading people as you are, but we aren't bad either. We can sense something in your INFJ/INTJs and will usually try to learn more about you. One of the first things I look for is humor. Be light, be casual. We will be attracted.

    • June 16, 2015 11:05:13 AM PDT
    • I may be a little late here, and this is undoubtedly more anecdotal than scientific, but when I was in college, I was always out--either at class, or the gym, or the bars (and, in true ENTP form, I was an undergrad for 7 years because I changed majors 4 times haha). But I would say to find an ENTP girl at a bar, go to a dive bar or a bar that has pool tables or darts or something competitive to do. At least for me, I love to compete and exercise my verbal skills by (playfully) berating whichever male felt like he was up to the challenge--never mean-spirited, just a fun battle of smack-talking wits. If he could stand up to it and dish it back just as well, he might have had a chance :). I think you could tell me apart from other girls because I was usually only with my one good girl friend (an ENFP :)) and a bunch of guy friends--who, in hindsight, were probably trying to get with one/either/both of us but my BFF wasn't interested/was just enjoying the attention and I was totally oblivious (Apparently what I perceive to be friendly and "joking around" behavior is perceived by others as flirting. Thankfully my Fe is more developed now then it was back then) Although, despite the fact that I was actually single, I guess the "being-surrounded-by-guys" thing probably made me seem unapproachable or taken.

    • May 24, 2015 5:50:51 AM PDT
    • My experience: Start-up social events. They like both tech and parties.

    • May 20, 2015 4:33:12 AM PDT
    • I am fairly gregarious, actually--can "talk to a fence post" as we say down here in Mississippi...but I do vascillate between "I" and "E" depending on the day/mood...

    • May 20, 2015 3:50:55 AM PDT
    • you sound more like an INTP, ambivert92165 :). I did mean it in a positive way. I wish I had the 'social will' to go to everything I was invited to and be more outgoing.

    • May 19, 2015 8:05:45 PM PDT
    • Personally, I will not go to just "anything I'm invited to." I will only go to events/functions I'm obligated to go to or very interested in. I am more likely to be found sitting in the back corner of a book store with a cup of coffee and a stack of very random non-fiction books--but I am only 1-2% extrovert. I do not like "chit-chat" and usually go straight to the heart of mostly serious issues when in conversations with others, which is extremely disconcerting and uncomfortable for most of the female population. My students, however, love and appreciate it (once they get used to it and realize that's really how I think). They say I am "straight up," "real talk," and "keepin' it real." ha
      P.S. Red5--the question you asked me is not the kind of question an ENTP would enjoy answering...we are very pragmatic. Where we are is where we are. If we wanted to be somewhere else, we would be. ;)

    • May 19, 2015 4:15:59 PM PDT
    • I wish I knew a female ENTP that I could 'extrapolate from' to predict where you'd be likely to find other female ENTPs. I know a male ENTP, and he'll pretty much go to anything he's invited to. So I guess mimicking their behaviour and going to everything you're invited to would be one of the best ways to meet them?

    • May 17, 2015 8:22:11 PM PDT
    • ambivert92165 said:
      I'm an ENTP--but way too old for you ;) i may be able to answer a question...?

      Thanks. As a female ENTP, if you weren't where you are, where would you be? OR, if you wouldn't be there, where are you now?

    • May 17, 2015 7:56:14 PM PDT
    • Rashe said:
      Personally, I go to pretty much every free event everywhere -- almost indiscriminately. And I'm usually by myself because my friends don't go outside. But when I'm by myself or not otherwise invited to be someone's center of attention, I'm generally really boring and indistinct. The most ENTPs I know I met through competitive Pokémon.

      Very interesting to hear. I'm still trying to decide if competitive pokemon was meant tongue in cheek, or to take it at face value. :)

    • May 17, 2015 6:24:42 PM PDT
    • I'm an ENTP--but way too old for you ;) i may be able to answer a question...?

    • May 17, 2015 1:40:53 PM PDT
    • Personally, I go to pretty much every free event everywhere -- almost indiscriminately. And I'm usually by myself because my friends don't go outside.
      But when I'm by myself or not otherwise invited to be someone's center of attention, I'm generally really boring and indistinct.
      The most ENTPs I know I met through competitive Pokémon.

    • May 17, 2015 3:56:33 AM PDT
    • Well. I am ENTP, but not female. I suppose we ENTPs can be found in places where people tend to be. Many ENTPs tend to be curious and adventurous, often entrepeneurs, people who create things, etc. So you might check places those people congregate. Female ENTPs are significantly less common than males unfortunately, but they do exist.

    • May 16, 2015 9:12:07 PM PDT
    • Anyone know where ENTPs can be found in real life? I'm particularly interested in meeting female ENTPS; I'm not sure I've ever met one.

    • June 23, 2015 2:55:47 AM PDT
    • To the OP, my first question is are you INFJ, cause your avatar say INFP? Me personally, this whole "online thing" (yes, I'm not on Faceback) is new to me. So for me, this is pretty much the only time I will be "here", because its new and I don't have it in "balance" yet - its been about 24hrs non-stop thus far as I have afew days off work, and procrastinating on the other things I have/want to do. Once it stops being so interesteing/intreguing, I'll be back out and about. That's why you don't see us. Actually, you don't see us because we are busy either being out, or being thinking about what to do next (I am INTP as well...and ESTP apparently, but hey!). Other question for you is where are you since you posted 2 months ago? Oh right, I'm talking to myself again! Bye for now.

    • May 6, 2015 9:45:36 AM PDT
    • I am an ENTP. What would you like to know, Sam Phillips? :)

    • May 6, 2015 4:34:41 AM PDT
    • I have dated a couple INFJ guys and have grown to love them immensely but there are these walls. I actually had a chat with an INFJ guy online not too long ago and asked them why they have such walls that shut people out. His response was that they have to keep some things to themselves. I then asked, "even from the ones you love?" He said Yes. My response, "Then how can you have love without letting them in? If you can't trust them, there is no point in the relationship." He never responded back. I think I may have hit a nerve on that one. Though, I have seen this wall in every INFJ I have ever encountered. I love them to death, but I also have trust issues with them. It's even amazing how the INFJ and ENFJ are so different. I have no issues with my ENFJ they are open books.

      And, how did you derail? The whole point was to talk about INFJs, right?! ;)

    • April 28, 2015 10:17:22 PM PDT
    • Interesting reply. I appreciate it. However, I already made up my mind roughly 5 months ago.
      I truly enjoy the relationship, and I even love her, which is wonderful, but it will not be a long term thing.
      I fully agree with your analysis of the maturity and time necessary for the development of the INFJ in regards to dealing with essentially any of the rational types (4 of them), but her position is unique due to past stuff. Just your standard skeletons in the closet type deal. It's unfortunate really, but it is what it is. There's simply one or two fundamental flaws that are not subject to change since they are core to her being.

      My main concern, and potentially you could help with this, is how to end it. There just doesn't seem to be a good way, especially when we're both so happy.
      Don't worry if it doesn't make sense. As with all things, there's a lot left unsaid.

      Aaaaand now the thread is entirely derailed :)

    • April 26, 2015 9:43:52 AM PDT
    • Hey Silver, just wanted to give you my own two cents, regarding the issue on empathizing you have raised in your commentary about your relationship with your INFJ girlfriend.
      I'd like to let you know, that with time, INFJs mature to become much more reasonable, emotionally wise, when they understand how to systematically arrange their sensibility to the world, in other words, to put on filters, and let in the only real valuable aspects of their sensitivity.
      I speak from personal experience, I understand how much of a deep burden of feelings we can be when we are overwhelmed by love, particularly when there are no set boundaries in relationship as to how much we can share, and want to be relatable to the significant others.
      Give it time and space, and the INFJ will learn to thread lightly emotionally around the person they care for, even if it may seem like a sacrifice to them at first..
      I say that because I have been that person to a good ENTP friend of mine, who just couldn't handle me in my hyper phases of sensationalist intuition !

      From what you've said, I can only assume that you are still together, so maybe you can work together in setting a few boundaries, sensibly wise, and maybe help her to understand feelings can be heavy to other people, and to learn to sympathize,
      that is to understand the other's feelings without necessarily feeling them, to put on filters on what really needs emotional investment, and what can be left out..

      Good luck in your endeavours! I hope this piece of personal advice was helpful.

    • April 21, 2015 12:19:23 PM PDT
    • Haven't logged on in a few months. Currently dating an INFJ. We've lasted about 10 months. She's 21 and I'm 22. In college. I'm a Mathematics Major and she's Behavioral Neuroscience. It's a pretty damn nice relationship with few, but major flaws.
      If it weren't a relationship, it would probably be one of the better friendships I've ever had, but her emotional needs are simply too great for me. I'm not exactly the best at empathizing if I don't have a logical root from which to trace the motivation. This could also be due to my own personal history and her personal history clashing rather than a difference in ENTP and ENFJ personality types though.

      Well that went on a tangent. Mainly for the benefit of SabinaLea.

      Anyways, what's up? What'd you want to know?

      P.S. I'm at the end of my semester so may not respond with all due haste, so feel free to write a monologue and I'll respond in kind when I remember to check. I'll check by Friday at the latest, I promise :)

    • April 19, 2015 7:46:21 PM PDT
    • Well, I am apparently an ENTP, who thought they were an INTP. LOL! So...Hi! I know a number of INFJs and I find them very intriguing, though it's probably because they are such an enigma to me, more so than any other Intuitive type. You are the one type I cannot seem to understand. You are shrouded in mystery and I haven't figured out if this is good or bad yet....

    • April 18, 2015 4:35:18 AM PDT
    • Hey all! Everything I've read online (and of course, the internet is an infallible wellspring of insight) has taught me that we INFJs and you ENTPs should have a very good rapport. The only problem is, I don't think I know any ENTPs. Two of my best friends are ENFPs, so I definitely understand the Ne-Ni synergy that's unleashed when these types happen to wander into the same room. However, you ENTPs have proved to be much more elusive! Still, I definitely want to test this hypothesis, so please extend a brotherly or sisterly hand to an INFJ friend in need, and give me a shout :).

    • June 16, 2015 11:46:30 AM PDT
    • Creaky said:
      When you can find a joke in anything When people think your serious when your fucking with them When people think your fucking with them when your serious When people always want to have sex with you

      All true, and I'd like to add: -When you're being serious, but someone gets upset, so you say you were just fucking with them. -When you're not sure if you're actually serious or just fucking around, but you let the other person's reaction to what you said decide for you.

    • June 16, 2015 11:36:37 AM PDT
    • -Your friends dare you to do crazy things b/c they know you can't resist
      -You think pretty much everything falls under "common sense" or "self explanatory" and are highly annoyed every time you are reminded that this is absolutely not true for other people
      -Your boss thinks you have a secret agenda, when really you just want to share your ideas or point out his mistakes (just trying to be helpful!)
      -You say 100% truthful things about people directly to their face, and then when you realize it hurt their "feelings" (what are those?), you say you were just joking
      -When making a purchase, you do hours and hours of research on where/what/when to buy to get the best product for the best deal. And still, immediately after purchase, you have buyers remorse.
      -Most people think you're crazy/weird/wild/ADHD. Some people can't stand that about you. You DGAF.
      -You've been diagnosed with ADHD, but you're pretty sure you're not the one with the problem... you're just outnumbered.

    • May 13, 2015 12:09:15 PM PDT
    • People always want to have sex with you?? I certainly don't find that to be the case. Wait, are you fucking with us? :-)

      The other three are spot on, though.

    • May 13, 2015 12:19:35 PM PDT
    • Dated an ISTJ for four years. They are really really really boring, but stable and reliable. the relationship lasted way too long because it's really hard to leave them. They don't do anything wrong to you that would make you say "That's it we're done!" They just bore you to tears. Eventually, you just end up living your own separate life, usually seeing other people on the side, while the ISTJ waits for you at home and wonders when you are going to eventually "settle down" but of course you never will.