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    • October 12, 2018 5:56:05 PM PDT
    • Other "roles": soloist, artisan, craftsman, sensualist.

      I've felt a bit like a ghost my whole life quite honestly. Being around people can bring me out of my shell.

    • October 31, 2015 10:32:02 PM PDT
    • I'm not a nihilist at all, and hedonism doesn't flow with my morals, but merc fits. I don't like to be tied down to a cause or position, because the facts change all the time. If I like it, if it stacks up, I'll stick around. If not, I'm gone.

    • October 31, 2015 10:31:58 PM PDT
    • I'm not a nihilist at all, and hedonism doesn't flow with my morals, but merc fits. I don't like to be tied down to a cause or position, because the facts change all the time. If I like it, if it stacks up, I'll stick around. If not, I'm gone.

    • October 7, 2015 8:13:21 PM PDT
    • Nihilist fits if it's understood properly. That word has been far too butchered.

      Self loathing fatalists should have no monopoly on the word or it's definition.

    • September 30, 2015 10:03:00 AM PDT
    • I was set as Sexual Secure, but after reading into it more (went kind of fast when I signed up) I'm pretty sure I'm secure-sexual.

      Hedonist, artisan, soloist, mercenary, and Senualist, are all spot on for me. Nihilism fits too (loosely).

    • April 29, 2015 11:48:00 AM PDT
    • Secure-sexuals seem way cool.
      Wish I was one but I spend too much time staring longingly.

    • November 8, 2014 6:34:54 AM PST
    • This is all soooo wrong. I have been an INTJ for 26 years. I have been in sales and started my own businesses in my 20's. Most people that meet me think that I am definitely an Extrovert but it is a business/social front. Those that really know me (the few) know that I am definitely an Introvert. My point is that my experiences and lifestyle have altered how I handle myself. I am rarely uncomfortable in social situations and have no trouble public speaking. However, it drains me and I need alone time or at least quiet time. I have dated several men who talked constantly, mostly about how women never stop talking, ironically. I enjoy being with them in my down time, the companionship but I detest the constant chatter. I dread the phone ringing unless I am specifically planning a call or it is my S.O.

      As for the others...

      Nihilism - This could not be farther from the truth for me.
      Hedonist - Again, not even close.
      Mercenary - Not at all once again, perhaps a bit when I was younger but short lived.

    • April 24, 2014 5:45:36 PM PDT
    • I'd have to agree with all of the above. Especially the nihilism thing...

    • October 22, 2013 8:32:07 AM PDT
    • meh... all the additions fail, but hedonist is right on.

    • January 13, 2013 12:14:19 AM PST
    • I've met all of the above. I tried to be a merc...

    • September 3, 2012 1:10:47 AM PDT
    • I prefer the term "too cool for school."

    • July 31, 2012 5:38:26 PM PDT
    • Along with "hermit"...

    • July 30, 2012 7:46:10 PM PDT
    • included in the list of "Roles" for Secure-Sexuals should be nihilist...

    • April 2, 2014 6:14:38 PM PDT
    • I guess I am not makng a good case for our type. The plus is you will never land into a relationship with us when we don't have our act together.

    • April 2, 2014 6:13:38 PM PDT
    • Skiddish as hell.

    • August 20, 2012 10:20:29 PM PDT
    • I dated a secure-social. He was an ISTJ, really down to earth, focused, driven but not too much so. He was my rock :)

    • August 19, 2012 4:09:07 PM PDT
    • The ESTJ Secure-Social I dated long ago was very comptaible with me. He wasn't as adventurous (probably from the lack of the Sexual Instinct), but I liked him for that. He was trustworthy and dependable.

    • August 19, 2012 2:59:33 PM PDT
    • I have dated a sexual-secure (it was great) and a secure-sexual, but never a secure-social. The only secure-social I know is an ISTJ, and frankly I find her to be exceptionally boring (no offense ISTJs). Has anyone dated a secure-social, our third supposed compatible type? What was it like?

    • November 9, 2013 1:31:51 AM PST
    • Sorry, not an ISTJ, but I am a Secure/Sexual ISFJ.

      I can see that ISFJs might usually be Secure/Social because we use Fe. I don't see why a Te user would have to be more "social" than "sexual"

    • October 2, 2012 8:02:42 PM PDT
    • Lol, she's asking how common are Secure-Sexual ISTJs.

      I THINK I know one secure-sexual ISTJ...but I can't really say for sure if that is what she is. She has the toolkit of an ISTJ (good memory, everything is organized and efficient, action takes place over theory), but she has a wild streak that my secure-social ISTJs don't have. As in, she is super responsible but has some strange alternative/hippy streak that comes out every now and then (aka. pick up guys randomly at bars, smoke weed, cuss like a sailor, like underground music...).

    • September 18, 2012 3:41:23 PM PDT
    • I am not what you have requested, but... Hello!

    • July 30, 2012 7:23:04 PM PDT
    • I am a Secure/Sexual ISTJ, but I feel like I am rather rare. I have 3 other ISTJs friends, all of them are Secure/Social. Any other Secure/Sexual ISTJs out there? what do you think are the main differences between you and other ISTJs?