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    • February 16, 2021 12:43:12 AM PST
    • INTP speaking...

      but for me so far:


    • February 3, 2021 7:20:12 AM PST
    • Married a wonderful ENFP last year that I met on projectevolove (4 years ago ?!) !
      She moved to France Confirming @Alejandro in the first posts of this thread.. 8 years ago.
      I am ENTJ, can confirm the awesome complimentarity between ENFP and xNxJ.
      Positivity, patience and communication helped us a lot. But it'd work for any types.

      Each type has its own way to be wonderful. I have a lot of fun with ENTPs building ideas together is.. perfectly splendid.
      Have a nice day :)

      PS: I believe this website is stuck in time, but it's awesome anyway.
      For new joiners, you can meet interesting people here :)

    • November 22, 2020 7:51:59 PM PST
    • Never been on a date. But I get along best with INTPs and xNFJs. INTJs fascinate me. And I envy the focus and discipline the Si and Ni doms possess.

    • August 10, 2020 7:06:18 AM PDT
    • 1-INTPs

    • August 21, 2019 3:18:03 PM PDT
    • They can understand where an entj is coming from, entertain the vision and provide better. Istps are horrible at that quite frankly. Or at least uninterested

    • August 21, 2019 3:15:09 PM PDT
    • Intps or entps are great matches with entjs. Istps entjs are interesting pairs. I get the feeling istps leave the entj feeling unfulfilled somehow. They can't vibe with or provide for the entjs vision as they often have a vision of their own. Intps and entps are much better at that, the vision part.

    • August 16, 2019 2:48:24 AM PDT
    • Upon merely reading about the personalities, my favorite types are the INTP or the ISTP, as my ideals, per my ENTJ personality, would be an INTP or an ISTP. So, I'm on an adventure to at least knowingly date someone who is an INTP or an ISTP, to see what happens. Love? Maybe.

    • August 16, 2019 2:44:29 AM PDT
    • I've spoken with people whose personality I've known. Of these personalities, I can't say any of these are my favorite:
      My brother is an ENTP, and I enjoy his charisma but not his lack of following a schedule.
      My sister is an INFP, and I don't emotionally connect with her very well, if at all, if possible, but I enjoy here flexibility with talking about whatever comes to mind, spontaneously.
      My dad is an ISFP, and I don't like his S, "now-thinking" trait, as I can't really talk about hypotheticals with him.

    • March 17, 2019 4:07:34 PM PDT
    • That is interesting - I find INFJ personality types the most appealing. The introversion and feeling qualities are very nice and compliment the extroversion and thinking of ENTJ's. Judging and intuition also makes us very similar in how we see and approach the world and life. INFJ's I feel are very well-matched to ENTJ's.

    • March 12, 2019 5:48:14 AM PDT
    • Favorite in terms of potencial partner, attraction and respect - INTJ and ENTJ (both are so hot :).
      Unfortunately I haven't had a chance to meet ENFPs or ENFJs.
      I also like INFP people, but INFP men seem to be too "feminine" for me.
      I cannot stand ST for long.

    • January 18, 2019 9:47:31 AM PST
    • Romantically, I seem to enjoy SJs. NFs simply exhaust me.

      My oldest son is an ISTP, and he is actually a pretty cool introvert. We get along really well.

    • December 1, 2018 5:16:26 PM PST
    • cool dress sense and photos!

    • November 12, 2018 11:45:38 PM PST
    • ENFJs, INFJs, ISFPs, and other INFPs tend to be the ones I'm drawn to the most. <3

    • November 1, 2018 3:20:36 PM PDT
    • While I haven't had too much dating experience, I will say that most of the people I am drawn too are either: INTPs, INFPs, INFJs, INTJs, and ENFPs.

    • June 20, 2020 6:18:28 PM PDT
    • I think this is how all extroverts appear. In my experience, ENFPs do attempt to live by their values, so it would be natural for them to talk about their experience. They seem quite selfless to me, and don't lack depth at all.

    • November 30, 2019 11:39:12 AM PST
    • I think Dallas makes a god point. I have a friend who I'm pretty sure is ENFP, and she tends to constantly stream her train of thoughts verbally, often repeating herself or jumping between topics. I'm generally cool with that, and she thinks of me as a good listener. However, there are occasions when I have something to say but can't get a full thought out without the conversation being steered toward her again.

      There have been a couple of times that I was having a bad day and she got upset that I didn't seem to be listening to her, then I got upset that she didn't bother to ask what was going on with me, but it was kind of my fault because I hadn't really given any direct indication that I wasn't in a good place. I've since read that this type of conflict is common between ENFPs and INTPs since ENFPs tend to talk more than listen and INTPs tend not to talk unless asked.

      We still get along rather well because I appreciate that she is one of the most genuine people I know, and that I don't have to try to figure out the hidden meanings behind her words. Maybe the speaking plainly is what some may perceive as shallow, but there is nothing I dislike more than people saying things that they don't mean.

    • September 17, 2018 12:57:29 PM PDT
    • Yes @Solo! When I use the term "web thinking", I mean the same thing that you do. I am not referencing the www in any way, but more like a spider's web where otherwise unconnected nodes touch each other and can quickly spin to another seemingly disconnected thread on the other side. I really like the term "multidimensional thinking."

    • September 17, 2018 8:50:49 AM PDT
    • @Dallas, I think you've got it right. I recognize that Ne/Si pattern in ENFP friends and also in myself.

      (Clarification: What @DallasENFP describes as “web thinking” is not dependent on the Internet. My term for it has been “geometric thinking” or "multidimensional thinking," but I think we both use it as a contrast to linear thinking. The downside for me is that I can't stick with a story plot. I am making too many other more interesting associations along the way. This can ruin a novel, but when we try to communicate with people who learn only from stories, it can make us seem, as @Cyanara said, “like a weirdo.”)

      ENFP's Fi is not specifically empathetic, so this may cause some others who need more Fe to regard them as self-centered. I particularly liked @Cyanara's observation that “I feel like I give her my full attention and I don't get the same back.” This is a legitimate objection that I have experienced myself. It's just a mismatch.

    • September 17, 2018 12:05:58 AM PDT
    • This is an old conversation, but I think that it may be because we are so verbose. We process our thoughts and feelings externally, so it seems like we are always talking. Often, we don't even know how we feel about a subject until we hear ourselves say it. Other types can't comprehend this. We also live in worlds of metaphor and analogy, and we are web thinkers. The web can lead us within less than a minute, from folding our towels- to remembering when we used that towel on a beach- to a documentary we saw about whales- to the use of humpback whale songs in Incubus' music- to pondering succubi- to wanting to go have sex. It's noisy in here, and we lose a lot of people along the way. But it is all so very interesting to us!! And we want to talk about it ALL! It actually is very deep, but it might seem ADD-like to linear thinkers who have difficulty keeping up with our fast pace, as we are still processing thoughts and feelings about these things every step of the way. That makes us seem self-centered and lacking depth. And that judgment hurts us deeply because we are among the two most empathic types.

    • September 17, 2018 9:11:00 AM PDT
    • @Dallas, thanks for mentioning good research design. Sorely lacking in these parts.

      I disagree with your characterization of the Inferior as unhealthy and unmasterable. I differentiate preference (or confidence) from skill, so I regard the Inferior as simply our least confident of the top four functions. We may have difficulty modulating it, so it manifests as all or nothing. Maturity and individuation smooth some of this out. I don't regard ENFP's Si as poison any more than INFP's Si. It's just part of your charm.

    • September 16, 2018 11:24:41 PM PDT
    • I totally get that! I always ask or do an early field test to weed out the SJ's. It just doesn't work for me in a romantic relationship-- for either side!! :-)

    • September 16, 2018 11:19:10 PM PDT
    • That's really interesting! I'm going on a 2nd date with a girl tomorrow who I've given up on typing her. She could be anything from an INFJ I've finally brought out her "silly side" to a fellow ENFP, or INFP. All I know is I dig her and am almost afraid of asking her MBTI because I don't want to treat her any differently.

    • September 16, 2018 11:13:52 PM PDT
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    • September 16, 2018 11:13:50 PM PDT
    • Hey Moby! Yes- I have found that I am usually not immediately romantically attracted to ENFP men and tend to friend-zone them, but I have also found that if I give them a chance, the rewards are boundless. Being so similar poses challenges--- we might be tempted to compete socially and we read each other's BS coming and going, but even that can be growth promoting. But conversations are endless, play is equally creative, we continually teach, learn, and grow, we share the same outlook on life even if it leads us to different conclusions, and we share a similar desire for deep connection and passion. We also share the same quality of not giving up easily on a partner we "imprint" upon, so the shared commitment carries us through difficult times.

    • September 16, 2018 11:04:29 PM PDT
    • Hey DallasENFP so you want to date another ENFP?

      I think it has potential. I went on two dates though with a female ENFP much like me in June and it was weird so we broke it off. But like I said, it has potential.