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    • June 27, 2021 7:46:46 AM PDT
    • Robert Pattinson

    • September 2, 2020 7:04:21 PM PDT
    • I now believe that Peter Steele was likely an ISTJ.

    • August 10, 2020 6:51:52 AM PDT
    • Vincent Van Gogh.

    • May 28, 2021 1:24:46 AM PDT
    • NINJAS

    • May 30, 2019 3:23:48 AM PDT
    • I really like this website when it comes to reading into the different personlity types:

      - This page specifically points out what they consider the best relationship matches and why based off of personality types, which is either ENFJ and secondly ESFJ as matches for the INFP.

      So has anyone dated or even married these types? What are they like and what do you think? Are these types compatible in your experience? (Also if you guys are friends maybe you should consider dating one of them

    • May 30, 2019 3:02:28 AM PDT
    • @Annamomiji not off..this sounds right. Maybe you should reach out to him...idk the situation but as an infp we arent really good initiators. Although he withdrew himself he might not have realized he did (we're idealist dreamers) and might be wondering what happened or who left the conversation first. Haha lol

    • December 8, 2020 3:00:50 AM PST
    • I wouldn't take everything related to MBTI literally. The axis of introversion/extroversion is whole spectrum.

    • December 7, 2020 8:29:13 PM PST
    • I types have a hard time meeting other I types of the opposite sex. Its like the I's don't get out of their comfort zones readily and the E types have already swooped in and snatched up all the chicadees, that they lack the patience to appreciate, and keep them hidden wrapped up and constantly preoccupied.

    • December 1, 2020 12:25:11 PM PST
    • another fantastic answer you are absolutely on fire today

    • December 1, 2020 11:56:46 AM PST
    • Also @isochroma, I beg to differ. INTJs are very attractive. Their dark, brooding intensity is beguiling :P

    • December 1, 2020 12:15:30 AM PST
    • hmm, ok, I understand. My failure is that I kinda let my emotions screw me. I believe that you are highly probably right. I guess I will try to recover from that and I will probably restrict my communication with her. Thank you for advice and thoughts. I really appreciate that.

    • November 30, 2020 10:57:17 AM PST
    • op’s reply isn’t showing up on the home page but ok bro, just trying to brace you for having your dreams dashed. you might want to step outside yourself for a moment if you can and consider how strongly you’ve sold yourself this story that all her lack of interest is because she’s an introverted little wallflower. My bet is once you finally broach the subject with her she will tell you you’re sweet but she values your friendship too much. Aka she’s not attracted to you. anyway, only trying to help bud, best of luck

    • November 30, 2020 9:14:19 AM PST
    • - Obviously, you should be nice. The only thing I’d consider more attractive than intelligence, is the ability to be tactful.

      - I have to agree with BlackFeather, arrogance is a major turn off. I don’t care how smart you are, if you’re condescending about it, I won’t be impressed.

      - Open-mindedness is a must. I love independent thinkers, and those who don’t fall prey to prejudice.

      - Be accepting/inclusive of everyone. Meaning, don’t be biased against people for shallow reasons like being a little eccentric or nonconforming. INFPs want to feel like they can be themselves around you.

      - Humor is important. INFPs can often have an impish or zany nature about them. So if you want to get her out of her shell, make her laugh.

      - Ditch the formalities. INFPs can’t be bothered to care for rules or traditions-- those of which they consider pointless.

      The article you linked isn’t too bad. The one I related to the most was: “Your love needs to be unconditional and big enough to contain my dreams and my imperfections. Give me lots of space – lets be in each others orbit. Also show me lots of affection. And have a killer sense of humor.”

    • November 30, 2020 7:42:25 AM PST
    • So at first, thank you all for coming here,

    • November 30, 2020 5:33:29 AM PST
    • Well, be nice to her, as an INFP I'm either absolutely attracted to INTJs for their badass vibes or plain cringe when they brag too much. Also INFPs are very shy so you'll need to initiate stuff, but don't rush them, if you'll give her hints occasionally, eventually she'll figure it out.

    • November 29, 2020 10:49:55 PM PST
    • shes dropping all kinds of hints anyway "i'm enjoying being single" etc. trying to let him down easy because INFPs are nice that way. if she were attracted to him she wouldnt say something like that, she wouldnt limit her options around someone attractive. he needs to either move on (+probably work on himself, intjs are frequently physically and socially ugly) or prepare to hear all about her boyfriend problems one day soon.

    • November 29, 2020 10:44:16 PM PST
    • come on he needs to listen to his gut. undeveloped intjs listen to it all the time but in the face of a possible fu-- i mean possible relationship they suddenly lose all sense of direction. if you arent sure - if you have to ask - then guaranteed shes not interested. besides look how much hes overthinking the few sentences theyve exchanged over the course of months. his head will explode if he has to talk to her uninterrupted for a whole hour over coffee

    • November 29, 2020 9:31:12 PM PST
    • @Powren You got this man. I've never dated an INFP. I know quite a few though. Uhh, I mean, with any person you want to grow closer to, the first thing to do is to talk to them.

      I got a million different strategies I could give you to start this. Have you talked to her yet? If you really genuinely like her character, once you've talked to her at least a few times, you can tell her "Hey, I like talking to you, can I buy you a cup of tea at Starbuck and discuss [insert preferred subject here].

    • November 29, 2020 7:32:59 PM PST
    • shes not interested bro. no idea what you look like but even if you're not uggo, INFP chicks need to be led, conquered - you just sound too high inhib for something like that

    • November 29, 2020 7:32:10 PM PST
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    • November 29, 2020 7:23:27 PM PST
    • god this site is so shitty ignore the triple post

    • November 29, 2020 9:02:13 AM PST
    • How to get an INFP as an INTJ

    • August 10, 2020 7:02:06 AM PDT
    • I'm very good in bed!

    • November 22, 2018 8:04:15 AM PST
    • Us INFP males are found in the typical INFP hot spots: Barnes & Noble, Starbucks, Libraries, etc. We are introverted, so if you happen to wander about in such locations and look to successfully meet and INFP, YOU have to approach us. That’s a biggie. We INFP’s give out difficult auras, making us seem unapproachable, but when someone talks to us and asks us about our lives, we arent shy to tell many great things.
      Do not approach us in numbers, for we are very unfocused. It throws us off when we are approached by more than one person at a time. You and only you need to show a sign of interest.
      I would definately be interested in you, but im looking locally as well. And, even if we were residing in nearby towns, i would have a very difficult time expressing myself entirely in front of you. You are REALLY pretty.

    • September 23, 2018 4:24:12 PM PDT
    • I just had an INFP male ghost me. He seemed very into me but when I told him I was into him too and wasn't playing games, I even wanted a relationship with him. He said that I "scare" him. Since his type isn't a direct communicate type, he finally told me he's not ready for a relationship that it stresses him out too much. As an INTJ female I don't get hurt too easily, but this hurt. I'm crushed. So I told I'll let him go and told him to take care of himself. I'm walking away, but every part of me wants him. The worst part is I think he totally misunderstood. A relationship to me isn't moving in getting married and making the world revolve around us. We could have gone on years living separately and only seeing each other on weekends. I think he panicked for no reason.