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    • December 6, 2015 8:51:00 AM PST
    • Rift Zone said:
      INTJ's of course. If sex is one of the things we geek out on, watch out. We will rock worlds like no other. Then again, some of us are rather asexual. Could go either way, I guess. Another vote for INFJ then. As mentioned above by Hannah99 "Sex is a surreal/spiritual experience for us." -Makes you a lot of fun to be with.

      absolutely agree. if im interested, it is my FOCUS my HUNT to get it and get it again....., if nothing of interest is around, I can go years (hence the asexual tendency.)

    • November 15, 2015 8:24:52 AM PST
    • Crunchtime, I have been in a relationship with an INTJ, and it was certainly not loveless, nor was it boring. Lack passion? It was off the charts!

      So you think, an introvert has no capacity for expressing themselves, also when administered pain etc? So only an extrovert would be more responsive in your opinion?

      Have you had any actual experiences in the BDSM scene? Perhaps I should ask if you have had sex with an introvert, if that was silent, I do not think the problem is introversion.



    • November 14, 2015 5:26:55 PM PST
    • Yeah, this seems like it should be more about compatibility and is very personal. I think INTJs are great cuddlers. <3 <3 <3 I think that's an individual factor.

    • October 6, 2015 9:55:08 AM PDT
    • I would think each opposite pairing would be mindblowing. You get what you desire most from the other. Two INTJs would be loveless and lack passion. Two ENFPs would be sloppy and just a hot mess.

      Logical types that care enough to explore it have studied and know *all* your possible buttons. They provide the how. Emotional types provide the reward. They provide the why.

      It's something I experienced in my limited time in BDSM. I always wanted someone who was responsive, in more than one way. When I push a button, I want to see the reaction. When we're done, I don't want 'That was great. Thanks. Want some orange juice?'. I want tears, crying in joy for how amazing and mindbending the experience was. The look in the eyes expressing the thriving well of emotion and gratitude. The closeness derived from passions unleashed. I don't think I can get that from another INTP.

    • October 4, 2015 8:50:53 PM PDT
    • The best sex is ENFP with INFJ. All other pairings are inferior.

    • August 18, 2015 10:37:49 PM PDT
    • There were more posts to the opposite- INTJs cuddle. In my experience INTJs become full of life, are insanely brilliant and master anything that interests them- which has to be mentally stimulating.

      You don't move into being a different type based on circumstances. It's more likely a partner activates the intuitive side of the brain, making them want to master loving itself.

    • August 18, 2015 9:11:22 AM PDT
    • Haha! Someone should do a poll on INTJ's and cuddling. Also, I agree with what you say in your profile about being more F when it comes to relationships. That is the same for me. I think being "in love" does that.

    • August 18, 2015 5:08:19 AM PDT
    • Boy, INTJ's really get a bad rap in the cuddle department. I love to cuddle! It wouldn't be much of a relationship without it.... I went to a guys house once and he was like here, sit on this couch opposite from me. Dude, I didn't come to your house to sit ten feet away from you. If I'm going to sit by myself and I can do that at home, I don't need you for that. So then I sat by him and he was all happy :)

    • August 17, 2015 10:30:09 AM PDT
    • You would have to have sex with every type at the very least 10 times to get a good idea of which type, in general, you like the best. But then it would still be very subjective. Someone said INTJs don't like to cuddle. I definitely like to cuddle lol. I'm not very into pda though.

    • August 15, 2015 3:56:25 AM PDT
    • Maybe we should think about which MBTI combinations are likely to be mindblowing, rather than one type that just does it better.

    • December 3, 2015 6:14:54 AM PST
    • I think a lot of geeks make great lovers and partners, in my experience anyway...
      My first geeky boyfriend blew my socks of in the bedroom, but was also quite caring and considerate
      My second was not just great in bed, but a lot fun in bed too and i have never met a more thoughtful caring man in my life. He should write a book, seriously.

    • November 15, 2015 8:33:40 AM PST
    • HERE>
      https://philosophyforchange.wordpress.com/2014/09/19/spinoza-in-principle-ethics-affect-and-friendship/#more-14198

      No matter if you are geek or not, we can all be great lovers and friends.

    • October 21, 2015 8:06:13 AM PDT
    • Ns especially....we watch and theroize and study more than actually do. We learn, we figure things out. Take peoples bad encounters and understand why they were bad, search out and study the best approaches to affection, love and sex. It's funny...the actual act is more like data for us. What happened, how did it go, how can I improve, did they enjoy it, did I enjoy it? How can we make this more interesting and passionate, etc.

    • October 21, 2015 6:39:03 AM PDT
    • Well, I have no experience with this kind of things, but I can agree. I really do study the opposite sex ( gender ) a lot.

    • October 20, 2015 4:56:05 AM PDT
    • I know you're playin, that's cool. On a side note....we as people tend to be handicapped in one area and gifted in another. For a lot of us, our handicap is social graces. We make up for it in spades in other areas like logical or emotional intelligence.

    • October 19, 2015 10:22:34 PM PDT
    • Ya know you're right... What else they gonna think about at home in their geeky room all alone. Lol playin

    • October 19, 2015 9:56:53 PM PDT
    • Yeah, I said it. I originally posted 'Geeks make the best lovers'.. no 'can'. I do believe it. Most geeks or nerds or whatever society has chosen to call us introverts with big minds and hearts are really a missed opportunity. The reason I say 'can' in the title is it would be dependent if the introvert cares about or not.

      Here's some advantages we have:
      - We read. We study. If the opposite sex is our topic, we'll study the hell out of it.
      - If *you* are our topic, we'll study the hell out of you. What makes you laugh, what makes you cry. What turns you on. What makes your toes curl. The exact, precise way you like to be touched. Your each and every button you have.
      - They've likely not had many relationships which makes you *special*.
      - Introverts treat their special people very well.
      - We can know how to do it, we're just not experienced. We don't come with bad habits.
      - If you can make it into an introverts heart, you will be adored.

      The one area we may be lacking in, especially the Ts, is we may not exude passion. However, once you're 'in' with an introvert and they are comfortable with opening up to you without fear, look out. Caged tigers.

      In the end, you can have someone that is a *very* attentive and knowledgeable lover, someone who is more than willing to experiment and has an inner fire that can rock your world unlike any other.

    • October 4, 2015 10:48:39 AM PDT
    • Too much is wrapped up in sexual taboo, performance and importance. Enforced restriction on a natural bodily function can be damaging...but then again, it can provide an emotional and spiritual wholesomeness.

      What I take issue with is a notion or a thought or a brainwashing that sex is bad or sex is 'special'. It's not, unless you make it that way or are taught that it is. Sex is a natural sharing of intimacy that helps bond two people. The chemical cornucopia that happens during intimate sex has many benefits and special side effects.

      If people decide to hold on to their virginity to present it as some kind of gift after marriage, good on them. Just be aware that you may be completely sexually incompatible with the person you are now bound to. You may end up sexually frustrated and disappointed by your partner. Even worse...you have no practice. You don't know what you like and what they like. There is certainly time to find out but do you want their first experience with them to be hot trash? Better I would think to know the tricks and tips that drive them wild and leave them in sexual awe of your prowess.

    • September 9, 2015 1:02:35 AM PDT
    • I heavily agree

    • September 8, 2015 11:18:01 PM PDT
    • I think the concept of virginity is something worth considering.

      Having an intimate experience with a partner is something very private, and personal. It should be with someone you trust, and someone you see yourself building a future with.

      I think to a large degree we have forgotten that relationships shouldn't start out as sex. Too often we have sex before starting a relationship. As I see it, sex is the glue that pulls two people together. When you have large amounts of sex with a lot of random people you don't really want to invest in, it loses it's potency, and you become numb to the significance of what sex actually should represent.

      I don't believe in having a relationship with a girl who has had a lot of partners.
      People should take care deciding who they wish to be intimate with.
      It's not slut shaming. It's preference, and something I have come to understand plays a significant role in long term stable relationships.

      ...but that's just my 2c worth.

      Masturbation is fine. We have sexual tension we need to release. It doesn't hurt anyone, but excessive amounts of pornography has the same effect as a large amount of partners.

      It desensitizes you and creates unrealistic expectations which lead to people thinking it's better to keep playing the field, which in turn churns out more unhappy people seeking connections.

      Just a theory...

    • September 8, 2015 6:25:29 PM PDT
    • Virginity has nothing to do with masterbation.
      Sexual pleasure with another person is different than pleasuring yourself.
      Some people are able to experience orgasim with no physical stimulation - by thinking about sexual pleasure...
      saying someone is not a virgin because they masterbate starts you down a strange road - if you say that you need to be abstinent from sexual pleasure by refraining from masturbation in order to be considered a virgin, you are judging someone for experiencing sexual pleasure. It may not be long before you start to classify other activities such as kissing / rubbing up against someone.... as violations. Even thinking about having sex could be called into question. It's very judgmental of relating to others physically, or experiencing physical pleasure.

      children masterbate (sometimes very young children) - those children would certainly be considered virgins.

      Most people consider Virginity as someone who has not experienced sexual intercourse with another person. But that is also a very heteronormative view.
      I'd say that view usually still considers someone a virgin even if they have engaged in oral sex, but they would be said to have had some sexual experiences.

      By that definition - women who have sex with other women and not with men would be considered virgins.

      This just hilights that the label doesn't matter. It should only be about what is comfortable to you - and everyone is different. There is no "normal".

    • August 30, 2015 1:44:04 AM PDT
    • And just to add.. Masturbation is completely natural and healthy. The flesh is what makes us lust. The mind is what makes us love. Your stance is not pointless at all!

    • August 30, 2015 1:38:34 AM PDT
    • I only see one comment from a female on here, so allow me to be female #2. (;

      When I was 17, I thought I found the love of my life. Of course, I also thought tacos were the love of my life, but that's slightly beside the point. (Tacos and I are still very close, however) I never planned on losing my virginity until I was married. But I fell hard for that guy and things went well, until they stopped going so well. Since our break up happened a year later, I've not been with anyone else (going strong for 3 years now!). My reasons are as follows:
      1. I don't know that I would be able to separate sex from emotions. And wouldn't want to deal with that
      2. One night stands seem so cliche and short lived.
      3. I want to have a deep connection with whoever im with.
      4. I respect myself, and if I went and slept with people I wasn't in love with, I don't think I'd respect myself the same way. (That's not to say it can't be done, or that having sex out of a loving relationship is wrong.. I just don't know anything else. So from my experience.. Sex in a loving relationship is just my cup of tea.
      5. Like Cyanara said, when you have sex with someone you may feel as if you are giving a part of yourself away that you won't get back. And in a sense that's true.
      6. HELLO, sex isn't always safe. Think about the possibility of diseases.. and children and don't get me wrong kids are great.. But not when you can barely take care of yourself.

      The fact that I'm saving myself has everything to do with the fact that I'm just not comfortable giving my body to every Tom, Dick, and Harry. It also has to do with fear of intimacy (not sexually) but mentally. When I do finally meet the person I consider worth the expense, I'll know, and the waiting I've done will seem all the more special and worth it.

      To wrap it up (I'm punny, I know. (; ) there is nothing wrong with waiting for sexual partner that you want. Whatever your reasons may be, they are your reasons. No one should attempt to challenge you on them. People may say it's weird, because sexual promiscuity is becoming so abundant in our culture. On the other hand, others would say that sexual promiscuity is weird as well. All I have to say, is you do you boo-boo. :P if being with 1000 people makes you truly innately happy, then do that. If being with no one until you found your seemingly perfect match makes you happy, then do that. Don't let anyone talk you out of what you firmly believe in and what makes you truly smile!

    • July 26, 2015 1:29:27 AM PDT
    • Mate I would give anything to be a virgin again, as I wasted my first few encounters with meaningless casual sex just to experience it. What a mistake that was. After that I realised how special sex is and how empty it is if its not someone you really love. Sex is pivotal, it can become really special and a treasure of infinate value, or it can become cheap and worthless, giving feelings of emptiness and loss of self respect.

      My advice is to keep sex for that special someone where it will bring a lot of satisfaction. Thats what I'm waiting for now.

    • August 15, 2015 4:01:41 AM PDT
    • For me sex has to have some kind of connection, but it does not have to be romance.
      I think sex has so much social stigma surrounding it, we call all berate ourselves for not falling within social norms, but when we are just us, doing it the way we do, thats right for us and our partner, maybe thats the most beautiful kind of sex - and anyway whats normal?