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    • December 22, 2015 5:20:36 AM PST
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      So what's the thing about INFJ?

      Hey!

      I'm a relative newcomer to the MBTI and Enneagram community, and it seems that the INFJ is the only type of woman that will truly (under)stand me. Naturally this intrigues me.

      So my question is: how are INFJ women? Are they "gamed" the same way as most other women? Do they "feel" more than "think"? Are they looking for that emotional connection like all other women? Do they give shit tests? ;)

      Grateful for any comments, sharing of ideas, and helping me understand more about that perfect being the INFJ obviously must be.

      Cheers,
      Patrick
      Stockholm, Sweden

      This post was edited by PatrickHappy at December 22, 2015 6:00:57 AM PST
    • December 22, 2015 6:10:57 AM PST
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      So what's the thing about INFJ?

      What do you mean by "gamed"? Your other query about feeling more than thinking, I dont express it quite the same way. I look at it as Intuition guides my thinking, and I tend to express my feelings externally and easily.

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    • December 22, 2015 8:14:46 AM PST
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      So what's the thing about INFJ?

      I think most INFJ's would dislike being termed perfect. We are some of the most self-aware of all the types so we intimately know our strengths and weaknesses. Because of the intuition Lisa mentioned, we seem to easily tap into what others are feeling and their needs. Which is why we are deemed the counselors. But are as far as thinking versus feeling, I'm a very deep thinker (Ghandi was believed to be an INFJ, as well as many famous philosophers). But I tend to make decisions based more on my gut feelings than an over-analyzed decision.

      This post was edited by HoboSue at December 29, 2015 2:45:45 AM PST
    • December 22, 2015 8:20:22 AM PST
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      So what's the thing about INFJ?

      I've spent a little time reading about this type and I am honestly intrigued, so I guess my question really is: if infj don't seem to fall for the typical come-ons and banter, what are the secrets to making her fall for me?

    • December 22, 2015 9:17:17 AM PST
    • So what's the thing about INFJ?

      I know few INFJ's..one is my sister. She is a weirdo/an outcast, but very creative. She feels like no one understands her, always thinking deeply,, dislikes superficiality.

      To really capture an INFJ is to be genuine. Let her know you're not judgmental of her. She wants to be accepted for who she is, even if she is quiet and deep thinking; not much people accept this. She is looking for someone who will accept her. Also, be friendly even if she seems unfriendly, she is just guarding herself. She wants people to be friendly with her, that shows acceptance. She will open up if show you are genuine.

      Also, show her your creativity/your original ideas, show that you are not superficial, you care for people not by how they look, she believes souls more important than the appearance. (So, instead of calling her pretty/beautiful, say you are interested in her qualities).
      Also, be funny/witty so she can see the good side of life. Should be no trouble since you are ENTP.

      This is just what I know of my sister. She is truly INFJ.

    • December 22, 2015 12:25:37 PM PST
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      So what's the thing about INFJ?

      "I've spent a little time reading about this type and I am honestly intrigued, so I guess my question really is: if infj don't seem to fall for the typical come-ons and banter, what are the secrets to making her fall for me?"

      Well PatrickHappy,, I guess a good start is to ask how she really is... as in don't say "Hi how are you" and expect that pleasantry to be satisfactory for INFJ. Instead ask her how she really is and when she answers, don't respond with suggestions of things she could do differently/better (i.e. problem solve her response).
      Ask her thoughts on something thats important to her.
      Dig deep in yourself and give her meaningful responses to her questions of you. Show your depth of thought.
      Well those are the sorts of things that 'show me' who a person really is, as thats what I really want to see. And equally what I want to share about myself in any meaningful relationship whether its a friend, family member or possible partner.

    • December 23, 2015 12:08:40 AM PST
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      So what's the thing about INFJ?

      I've noticed INFJs possess an intuitive calmness that seems to ground ENTPs. Personal experience, so subjective observation and not a fact.

    • January 21, 2016 6:21:07 PM PST
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      So what's the thing about INFJ?

      I agree with livelovelaugh, I'd say the most important thing is to be genuine. As INFJ (in my opinion) we are more closed off than others, and tend to feel misunderstood, or 'special', so we usually don't have much friends, but tend to have real connections with the few people that we interact with, that's what we're looking for, someone true and open with whom we feel a real connection, a deep understanding.
      I don't know ENTPs very well, so that may not be really adapted to your type in particular.

      That being said, it's not so much about the type than about the person herself. I mean, don't go and push things with someone just because of her type. every INFJ is different, like any other types, MBTI is just a general indication about personalities.
      Also, there's no 'dating secret' that would immediately win someone over, of any type. I'd say, be patient, get to know the person, and don't overthink that too much!

    • March 6, 2016 6:01:40 PM PST
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    • March 22, 2016 2:23:05 PM PDT
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      So what's the thing about INFJ?

      Subjective observations are very useful and lol @ Corporate slave,

    • April 19, 2016 7:58:55 AM PDT
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      So what's the thing about INFJ?

      I'm pretty chill too.

    • May 2, 2017 2:23:30 AM PDT
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      So what's the thing about INFJ?

      Old subject but hey.
      Be honest and genuine. That's the only universal truth here. It's not difficult to get me to like you as a friend, don't be fake I'll see through that very quickly and stop trusting you and caring about you. Do not judge me. We're sensitive and there's nothing you can do to change that. Do not make us feel like we're overreacting. We want someone that will understand us and yes we want that emotional connection but personally I sure as hell won't make it easy for you. It's not a 'game' though I'm basically protecting myself, I've been used way too many times to be trustful. We have a thick shell but under it we're very upfront. If I'm not talking very much it's not necessarily that I don't like you I'm just shy, or analyzing you. Show interest, but be careful to not get into our bubble. If an INFJ starts avoiding you, give up they don't like you but are too nice to say it. As a romantic interest, I want someone I can talk with about my interests whether it's videogames, books, philosophical and rhetorical questions or politics, someone interesting (and funny). We're very Thinking, what makes us Feeling is that we use that Ti to help people because we truly care. Listen to my problems but don't try to solve them for me, talking about the problem doesn't mean I don't know the answer to it, I just need to talk it out. INFJs are very selfless, but do not take advantage of that because they'll know what you're doing and hate you for it.
      That's pretty much it.

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