included in the list of "Roles" for Secure-Sexuals should be nihilist...

Along with "hermit"...

I prefer the term "too cool for school."

I've met all of the above. I tried to be a merc...

This post was edited by hunter76 at January 13, 2013 12:15:09 AM PST

meh... all the additions fail, but hedonist is right on.

I'd have to agree with all of the above. Especially the nihilism thing...

This is all soooo wrong. I have been an INTJ for 26 years. I have been in sales and started my own businesses in my 20's. Most people that meet me think that I am definitely an Extrovert but it is a business/social front. Those that really know me (the few) know that I am definitely an Introvert. My point is that my experiences and lifestyle have altered how I handle myself. I am rarely uncomfortable in social situations and have no trouble public speaking. However, it drains me and I need alone time or at least quiet time. I have dated several men who talked constantly, mostly about how women never stop talking, ironically. I enjoy being with them in my down time, the companionship but I detest the constant chatter. I dread the phone ringing unless I am specifically planning a call or it is my S.O.

As for the others...

Nihilism - This could not be farther from the truth for me.
Hedonist - Again, not even close.
Mercenary - Not at all once again, perhaps a bit when I was younger but short lived.

Secure-sexuals seem way cool.
Wish I was one but I spend too much time staring longingly.

I was set as Sexual Secure, but after reading into it more (went kind of fast when I signed up) I'm pretty sure I'm secure-sexual.

Hedonist, artisan, soloist, mercenary, and Senualist, are all spot on for me. Nihilism fits too (loosely).

This post was edited by Deleted Member at September 30, 2015 10:08:52 AM PDT

Nihilist fits if it's understood properly. That word has been far too butchered.

Self loathing fatalists should have no monopoly on the word or it's definition.

This post was edited by Renzo at November 4, 2015 4:21:32 PM PST

I'm not a nihilist at all, and hedonism doesn't flow with my morals, but merc fits. I don't like to be tied down to a cause or position, because the facts change all the time. If I like it, if it stacks up, I'll stick around. If not, I'm gone.

I'm not a nihilist at all, and hedonism doesn't flow with my morals, but merc fits. I don't like to be tied down to a cause or position, because the facts change all the time. If I like it, if it stacks up, I'll stick around. If not, I'm gone.

Other "roles": soloist, artisan, craftsman, sensualist.

I've felt a bit like a ghost my whole life quite honestly. Being around people can bring me out of my shell.