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    • August 3, 2019 8:44:27 AM PDT
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      Beware of mistypes

      So I just quickly wanted to say that I've been debating-arguing over this since my online social presence in typology social forums. Here's the thing I noticed. I tend to criticize society and the general category of 'social people who proactively participate.' Among the many forum users who also identified as Sexual/Secure, aka 'Sx/Sp' or the other 'Social blind spot' type Sp/Sx, I could not find any who would criticize or get annoyed by the social types (according to the definition, we, Social lasts, should). In fact, the social types have mostly never indicated that they were Social-firsts on the forums. And the least were they able to was to reflect on or point out the real-time workings of their Social instinct (in one particular moment). For example, this is a forum, here we socialize, act according to the proper etiquette, present a persona that is palatable to most, yet no one is willing to reflect on that. Noone seems to see or willing to break the herd mentality, this convivial 'love fest' that someone has once called it (perpetuating, amping up positivity, shallow congeniality).

      So my theory is the following. It is known that the 2nd instinct in the stack is the 'creative' one, meaning that people have a relaxed attitude about it, they are not obsessed with it, can show it off, and are okay with revealingly talk about it because that's not their main concern. In this way you could say that Social first types are the ones that are so concerned about fitting in and networking that they write all these 'thinks outside of the box,' 'maverick,' 'goes against social expectations' attributes in their profiles (or 'forget' to mention they are a 'mainstream,' compromising person), but they still never ever catch themselves in the process of appealing to a group, following a larger trend (and say it out loud). They are not able to 'unfollow' the social norms of and not be tactful/polite to their preferred group because a behavior that does not meet the expectations of membership loses its function/power to be social. They cannot think about it, they cannot make it conscious because they are immersed/invested in doing it.

      So I noticed that this subthread has the most topics'n'posts within 'Instincts' and also that they are a lot of people who identify as 'Sx/Sp' on this forum. But I have to say, y'all, actions speak louder than words (Sx also manifests in intimacy, the need for more focused/downnarrowed one-on-one rapport, yet what I see is that people speak directly to each other only in bursts, they don't go deeper, the convo fades out quickly, instead they divide their attention and time between group members, i.e. getting to know a person from the safety of the group - Social/Secure). So please do educate yourselves, read up on diff. authors' definitions because if this site is the most advanced, then basically every dating site is a lie (technological utopia).

      p.s.: note this post was done also under the pretext of socalizing so as to find a girlfriend, for this author's emotional need and hormones are mighty ablaze this summer.

      This post was edited by Neokortex at August 3, 2019 10:36:47 AM PDT
    • September 2, 2019 12:32:24 AM PDT
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      Beware of mistypes

      I'm new to this site. However, I make my account here just to see what is this about dating site. I'm not interested in finding date partner. What you said maybe true, but really what is the truth and the false is not as easily can be seen like that. Yeah maybe some had mistyped on their instincts, but I guessed they had their own reasons. Actually what I did get by this site is, it is pointless. This site better come as a forum instead of a dating site. Why I can say so? Because as I see many people coming from different places around the world. The truth of how can someone had intimate relationship must had to be face-to-face, not this kind of texting. Two ENTPs had texting me only said "Hi" then disappeared like you said. This is useless. They barely respond back after I messaged them back. What I get is most people joined in this like me example, just want to test waters, nothing more. They maybe will respond but that if something shiny grabbed their attention, as most just log in if they had time. What I get is most people are not as serious as some, and I don't know whether that is good or not. Human beings are complex and can be wrong. This site holding the people like they must sell themselves in order to catch someone's attention, sounds desperate. Most I see also tend to be NT or NF, which NF must understand that most often NT types rarely desperate finding partner to giving 100% on their time for that.

    • September 2, 2019 2:25:51 PM PDT
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      Beware of mistypes

      "Actually what I did get by this site is, it is pointless. This site better come as a forum instead of a dating site. Why I can say so? Because [...] The truth of how can someone had intimate relationship must had to be face-to-face, not this kind of texting."

      I don't get why you think the forum is better, it's still not face-to-face. By now, I've had already 5+ years of forum experience. What I expected from a dating site is that people would at least try harder to figure out their type. That their will to date would incentivize that. But no, that was just the product of my unhinged idealism...

      "This site holding the people like they must sell themselves in order to catch someone's attention, sounds desperate."
      -- that's down to bad design. You can take the forumers as members being active for the very reason to advertise themselves.

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